Extracurricular activities ethics of children. Extracurricular activity “Travel to the country of etiquette. "Etiquette and Polite Words"

State treasury educational institution Rostov region special (correctional) educational institution for students, pupils with disabilities special (correctional) general education boarding school 8 type №11. Gukovo

Extracurricular activity on the topic:

Etiquette lessons

practical lesson

developed and carried out:

Mikhailova Natalia Pavlovna.

2014 year

Target: the formation of a culture of behavior and communication in children, based on the rules of etiquette.

Tasks:

To acquaint children with the rules of etiquette; to form students' understanding of the need to comply with the rules of ethical behavior.

Organize the acquaintance of children with the rules of behavior at the table, at a party; practice the use of words meaning a request, an apology.

To form the makings of self-control in the behavior of children.

Foster a welcoming atmosphere in their relationship.

"Lessons in etiquette"

Guys, today we are holding an event dedicated to such an important topic as Etiquette. So what does this word mean.

Etiquette is a set of norms, rules of communication between people, the behavior of each individual person in society, in the environment where he lives, with whose members he interacts.

Since ancient times, philosophers. Writers and poets have given numerous recommendations regarding human behavior at the table. V Ancient egypt in the III millennium BC one of the most popular manuscripts was the collection of good advice "The Teaching of Kochemni".

In the collection, in the form of recommendations from a father to his sons, the need to practically teach young people the rules of decency and exemplary behavior in society was explained. Even then, the Egyptians considered it necessary to use cutlery, also the ability to eat beautifully, quietly. Also, behavior was regarded as a great dignity and a necessary set of culture.

The word "etiquette" was first used in its modern meaning at a reception at the court of King Louis XIV of France, when guests were given cards (labels) describing how they should behave.

In Russia under Peter the Great. In 1717, a book about good manners was published under the title "Honest Mirror of Youth or Testimony to Everyday Circumstance."

There are many rules of conduct at the table and in transport. On the road, in public places, etc. Today we will consider several types of etiquette.

We'll start with the rulesbehavior in public transport .

You have probably already used public transport and may need to use it more than once. This means that you need to master transport etiquette. Today we will get acquainted with the rules of conduct on the bus.

Video clip.

Discussion.

Who should get on the bus first?

Who are the seats on the bus for?

What kind of transport should you be? - polite, calm, benevolent, not inquisitive, talk in a half-voice ...

Speech etiquette . Communication with peers.

How your relationships with peers develop depends a lot on you. Of course, your knowledge and skills, your appearance... Sense of humor. But the ability to behave. Still, being tactful and considerate with others is perhaps the most important thing. You can be able to and know a lot, but if you do not learn accepted communication with people, they will not want to listen to you or admire your achievements.

One of the signs of good breeding is the ability of a person to speak his native language. In order to be considered a well-mannered person, you need to monitor your speech and pronounce all your words correctly. Otherwise, a person can get into funny or very annoying situations.

Scene: "Harmful words"

Lyosha: Hi, Petya!

Petya: Salute, Druzhban!

L: What a blockhead?

P: Don't be a blockhead, darkness!

L: Why is it dark when it's daylight?

P: Don't you cook pumpkin?

L: I don't like pumpkin.

P: Oh, Goblin! Well, you are a bore!

L: Who is the goblin?

P: You. Lyokha, you don't understand modern expressions! You retarded little one!

L: I may not be as advanced as you, but somehow I don’t really like your super-modern language.

P: And all the girls really like it.

L: Let's see. There is the most beautiful girl in our school - Ira Davidovich.

P: Yes, Irene is just flying away, all the boys with her begins to sausage!

L: Exactly, something like that. Try to talk to her.

P: One spit! Now I will invite her to the club for a disco.

Ira 6 Hello, boys.

L: Hello, Ira.

P: Salute, Matryona of a cool style.

Q: What-what?

P: The skirt is brand new, so cool.

I: My skirt is not cool. She doesn't bite anyone.

P: Shall we go to the disc dance today, kick up our bones?

Q: I'm sorry. please, what?

P: Take off your ears, beauty. Let’s hang out, I say, we’ll have fun to the fullest.

And: Petya. I don't understand you at all, you frighten me ... you must be sick. Yes?

P: Ha ha ha! Backwardness! Now everyone says so.

Q: Not all.

P: Did someone tell you. What are you on the stigma, even nothing?

I: The piglet has a stigma, and I have a face! Why do you offend me, Petka.

P: Ir, I am this, I am not that ... I am kidding to counter you with my refinement. In general, you are cool.

I: Get away from me, bully!

P: Well. So let's go shake our bones?

Q: At the cemetery or what?

L: Ira, do not be offended by Petya. I'll translate you what he meant. I have already learned to understand his strange language. He says: "Ira, you are a cool girl, please, let's go to the disco together!"

Q: This is what he wanted to say when he said that my snout is nothing and that we can shake our bones? Horrible. What a lack of culture! He meant such beautiful words, but out loud he uttered just awful expressions!

P: Yes, yes. Exactly, so we go bones ... that is, to the disco?

And: Let's go. Only I'm not going with you, but with Lesha.

P: And why doesn't everyone like my language? It's modern ... Everyone says so.

L: Not all. And those who say some wrong and distorted words must correct themselves. Of course, such words can be inserted for laughter in companies, but speaking such a language all the time is very bad.

Q: Because people may think, “This is a person — either illiterate or sick.” Petya, give me your word that you won't talk like that!

P: I won't anymore. I promise to speak always and everywhere in normal Russian

Video clip Yeralash.

Guys, how many of you know what a compliment is?

Compliments are important elements of human communication. A compliment should be sincere and unobtrusive, then it can become one of the best gifts.

Game "Compliment"

Two pairs,

boy and girl take the stage. Who will say more pleasant words to his girl.

Game "Speech etiquette".

What are the words of greeting? ("Hello", "Good morning", "Good afternoon", "Good evening", "Greetings", "Hello", "Salute".)

Make a request. "You can tell me ...", "Could you tell me ...", "Please tell me ...", "Let me ask you ...", "Could you ...", "Be kind ...".

What are the best words to start your acquaintance with? “Let me introduce myself to you…”, “Let me get to know you…”, “What is your name?”, “Let me get to know you”.

How is it customary to apologize in a cultured society? “I apologize to you”, “Let me apologize”, “I cannot but offer you my deep apologies”, “Sorry”.

Do you have a few words of comfort and approval in reserve? "Do not be upset", "There is no reason to be upset", "There is nothing wrong with ...", "Everything will be fine", "Calm down."

Words of gratitude. “Thank you”, “Thank you”, “Let me thank you”, “Thanks in advance”, “Thank you”, “Accept my thanks”.

How to say goodbye so that people would be pleased to meet you again? " Goodbye". "Hope to see you again", "Good journey", "See you tomorrow." "Good luck". "We are always glad to see you." "Nice to meet you."

Rules of conduct at the table evolved over the centuries and now there are the most necessary and comfortable ones.

One must sit down at the table at the invitation of the hostess. Women sit down at the table first, then men, young people sit down after all.

A man should first of all pay attention to his neighbor on the table, to make sure that she does not need anything.

Don't talk loudly at the table.

Watch your posture.

Don't put your elbows on the table.

Eat quietly.

Rising from the table, the man must move the chair, help the woman to get up. And then get up yourself.

Now we are going to practice a little table setting, because we are all pleased to sit at a well-served table.

Table Setting Competition

Two girls are invited. They are offered a menu. Task: to set the table correctly. explain the choice of dishes for each dish.

Competition "Explain the proverb".

"The guest is happy twice."

Everyone who comes to visit should be able to leave on time. Unfortunately, not everyone understands this. Therefore, our people came up with this saying. The first time the guest is happy when he comes, the second time. when he leaves.

"It is not the owner's house that paints, but the owner of the house."

- No matter how beautiful the house is, it cannot make our stay in it pleasant if the owner is inhospitable and inattentive to the guests. "

"Get angry, swear, fight, and converge for bread and salt."

During the meal, all grievances and quarrels should be forgotten. Quarrels and squabbles during a meal are completely unacceptable.

"Don't be considerate in someone else's house, but be friendly."

This proverb contains a clear rule of etiquette: when you come to visit, do not look at the furnishings of the rooms, do not ask: “What is this, and why is this?” Do not touch anything without the permission of the owners. And be affable, benevolent, tactful, modest.

"The owner is cheerful - the guests are happy."

If the host is sad and sad, and the guests will not have time for fun.

Being polite, tactful, well-mannered, respectful to elders, having good manners and correct speech is prestigious, reliable, it helps in any life situations... This is that foundation. On which each of you guys have to build your own palace of relationships with the outside world. This concludes our event, all the best to you.

Extracurricular activity "Etiquette or the basics of good taste"

Objectives of the event:

· Mastering the basic ethical requirements in behavior and communication with people, mastering the skills of cultural behavior.

· The formation of skills to put forward hypotheses, substantiate their assumptions, generalize, draw conclusions;

· Broadening the horizons of students;

· Development of cognitive interest in the history of etiquette.

Equipment: multimedia projector, demo screen, Q&A presentation, videos, black box, badges for correct answers.

Questions to prepare for the game:

What is etiquette? What is the origin of this word?

Who owns the statement "Etiquette is the mind for those who do not have it?"

Formulate the golden rule of morality.

Which country is considered the birthplace of etiquette?

What is the name of the set of rules of conduct by which Russia lived in the 16-17 centuries? Who is its author? What did it say?

Name the first book on etiquette published in Russia, its compiler, year of issue. What did it say?

What do you know about the rules of modern everyday etiquette?

Game participants must be able to:

Show etiquette demeanor;

Correctly greet, get acquainted;

Explain the meaning of proverbs and catch phrases about etiquette;

- For learners you need to know:

Basic information from the history of etiquette (questions are provided to help in advance);

Secular etiquette of the early 19th century;

Modern etiquette norms of greetings and acquaintances;

Rules of the game: Students are divided into 2 teams of "experts" (6 people in each team). The main experts are selected, by whose names the teams will be named. The time for discussion is determined in advance and voiced by the teacher. During the game, teams are offered "entertaining" pauses, during which the players are told interesting and unknown facts from the history of etiquette.

Slide 2 : On the screen, the sayings of writers and philosophers:

"Nothing costs us as cheaply or appreciates as much as courtesy!" (Miguel Cervantes);

"Good manners consist of small sacrifices" (Ralph Emerson)

Teacher: Hello guys, today our extra-curricular event is called "Etiquette or the basics of good form" and it is dedicated to what we encounter every day, but sometimes we do not pay any attention to it, but in vain. This is our behavior in society: our appearance, our behavior at the table, communication with each other, with teachers, etc.

Communication begins with a greeting. The greeting is a sign of recognition of the value and dignity of a person. The variety of forms and the multicolored palette of greetings in different etiquette and cultures is difficult to describe and classify. The forms of greeting are extremely varied. The Masai are said to spit on their hands before greeting each other. The inhabitants of Tibet, taking off their hats, stick out their tongues, and left hand held behind the ear, as if listening. Maori people touch each other with their noses. Russians, British, Americans shake hands as a greeting gesture; a Chinese in former times, meeting a friend, shook hands with himself; modern Greeks greet each other with the words: “Be healthy!”, the ancient Greeks said to each other “Rejoice!”; Arabs greet each other with the phrase: "Peace be with you!", the Navajo Indians - with the phrase "Everything is good!". How do you greet each other? (The guys answer the question).

Since we are going to talk about etiquette today, let's remember what Etiquette is? Answer: Etiquette - rules of behavior people in society.

Without which etiquette is impossible (without what concepts?) Answer: (Without the concepts of morality, moral duty, responsibility)

Game progress:

Today our event will be held in the form of a game with elements of a quiz and elements of the game "What, where, when?" And they will help me today: Teacher Olga Mikhailovna, she will observe who raised his hand first and from which team, and will give out a jiton for each correct answer. At the end of the game, the winner will be the team with the most tokens.

Look closely at the screen and notice what writers and philosophers say. I think the meaning of these statements is clear to every self-respecting person. I want to set you up for a fruitful game and wish you by your behavior to show that you are familiar with the rules of good manners (this means being polite and patient, not interrupting each other). Command submission:

Warm up.

Who is the first to greet at the entrance to the premises?(always incoming greetings first, regardless of gender and age)

When we first meet people, who should introduce ourselves first? (woman, man, junior, senior, boss, subordinate)? (The rule always applies: the elder gives his hand to the younger, the woman - to the man, the boss - to the subordinate).

A man and a woman enter the room. Who is first? (The lady always enters first).

If you are late for the cinema or theater, where should you sit? Do I need to look for my place?(You must sit on the nearest free seats, and you can change to your seat during the intermission).

When on the phone, who greets first? (Caller, introducing himself).

Does a boy need to take off his knitted hat when entering a building, for example, a school? (Yes)

Should a young man, when greeting another young man on the street, take off his glove using a welcome handshake? (Yes )

At the end of lunch, how to leave the table? (They leave the table with others, thanking the owners, pushing a chair behind them

First question:

The question is asked by the Deputy Director for Academic Affairs and the teacher of the Russian language and literature Lyubov Anatolyevna Galyga (photo): Where and when did the word "etiquette" come from? (in the 4th century BC, Aristotle wrote Etiquette - it is good manners, good manners, the ability to behave in society).

Slide 3 Answer: At one of the magnificent and sophisticated receptions at King Louis XIV, the guests were presented with cards listing some of the rules of conduct required of them, the French name of the cards - "labels" and the word "etiquette" came about, which later entered the languages of many countries.

Second question:

Teacher: Guys, attention to the screen: The young man approached several girls. Greeting them, he kissed the hand of two of them, and the other two did not.

Question: Does he comply with etiquette norms? (No , the hand should be kissed by all the girls present ).

The third question is the Blitz Questions:

The time has come for a blitz of questions (teams are asked 3 questions, each has 20 seconds).

1st team

1. An item with which gentlemen challenge each other to a duel. (Glove)
2. What do ladies and gentlemen eat for breakfast? (Oatmeal)

3. What was the name of hairdressers before? (Barbers)

2nd team

1. What does a gentleman wear on his head? (Cylinder)

2. You sit down at the table, which is served with a variety of cutlery. In the center is a white starched napkin. What are you going to do with her? (Unfold and lay on your knees)

3. The ancient Romans ate with their hands. What did they wipe their hands on? (Wealthy citizens had special slaves whose hair they wiped their hands on after eating).

Fourth question:

Chemistry teacher Vladislav Aleksandrovich Pepelyaev plays against experts. Attention, question.

Dear experts in etiquette. I have a question about the rules of ancient etiquette, which could have included rules that seem to be just tyranny.

However, the Persian king Cyrus II distinguished himself with a special tyranny. The story took place near the Gind River. His beloved horse, which was considered sacred, drowned in the waters of the Ginda. Cyrus II gave the order to execute the river.

Question: How did Cyrus II manage to implement his crazy idea?

Slide 4 Answer: He ordered the soldiers to dig the river with numerous channels, after which it ceased to exist.

Fifth question:

The teacher Natalya Alexandrovna Mandrikova plays against experts Attention, question.

What Russian tsar personally drew up a set of rules of good behavior, which included the following points: "do not pick in the nose with a finger, do not spit in a circle, do not brush your teeth with a knife, do not swing your feet ...". It was also forbidden at the table to lick your fingers, blow your nose into the tablecloth, spit on your plate and throw bones under the table. "

Slide 5 Answer: (Peter the First)

1 Entertaining pause:

Assistant 2: The rules of etiquette have evolved over the centuries. Etiquette can vary significantly within different cultures and nations. In China, a person who takes the last item from a common dish, for example, the last slice of cheese, without first offering it to his neighbors at the table, will be perceived as an insatiable glutton who does not respect the owners. In Australia, in the women's circle, the person who takes the last piece is called contemptuously old maid, in Europe, it is customary for the plates after guests to be clean, as this indicates a high assessment of the culinary abilities of the chef. In some Muslim societies it is considered indecent to eat with the left hand, and even those who are born left-handed have to retrain. People were associated with the traditions, customs of a particular country, concepts of good and evil, with the laws that society adopted.

And then they began to write down these rules. The first book on etiquette is believed to have been written in Egypt around 2350 BC. It was called "Behavior Instruction". It has not survived to this day.

Six question:

Teacher: Attention, black box.

Slide 6 This vegetable has been known since ancient times. The Egyptians, for example, deified him in every possible way. They swore by them when concluding contracts and various kinds of agreements. In the Middle Ages, it was believed that it protects warriors from arrows, blows from halberds and swords. Knights, clad in steel armor, wore it on their chests as a talisman. And in Russia it was so popular that Peter the Great was forced to prohibit its use in some cases.

Answer: (Garlic)

Seventh question:

History teacher Marina Shaikhulovna Musifulina plays against experts. Attention, question. The founder of Western manners of etiquette in Russia was Peter I. To educate the children of the nobility, the tsar ordered to reissue a book popular in Europe three times, which was published under him and contained the rules of conduct. Many of the rules of this publication have not lost their relevance today.

Question: What was the title of this book?

Slide 7 Answer: ("An honest mirror of youth, or testimony to everyday life, collected from various authors")

Groups are given extracts from the collection "Youth is an honest mirror")

“Translators "No. 1

“Translators "No. 2

Eighth question:

The teacher Irina Vladimirovna Snopkova plays against experts. Attention, question (Photo).

Listen to the parable. We have one mouth and two ears, which means that we must listen more than speak. But a pair of eyes is located above the ears, so we must see, not believe the rumors. There is a brain above all of this, so we must first think before, after seeing a passage and hearing rumors, "pour out" everything through our mouths.

Question: How do you understand this parable?

Slide 8 Answer: (We must think over and comprehend what we have seen and heard and only then use speech)

Ninth question:

Marina Shaikhulovna Musifulina plays against experts. Attention, question. On August 6, 1698, the day after returning from a trip abroad, Peter at his Preobrazhensky court received his subjects who had come to him with a bow. Their faces annoyed the young tsar, who had managed, in two years of his life in Europe, to grow out of the habit of the appearance of facial hair and long-sex Russian clothing. Peter was used to acting with radical methods: he immediately set to work, and his actions horrified many boyars. Question: So what did Peter the First do?

Slide 9 Answer: (Peter the Great began to cut the boyars' beards).

Tenth question:

The teacher Olga Leonidovna Lupekina plays against the experts. Attention, question. "Are your cattle healthy?" This phrase is pronounced by the Mongols. Representatives of the African Zulu tribe say: "I see you." In China, they ask: "Have you eaten today?" And they all mean the same thing.

Question: How does it sound in Russian?

Slide 10 Answer: (Hello).

Helper 2: Almost any more or less significant event in the Middle Ages was accompanied by a feast, so the rules of the meal were quite important. In the early Middle Ages, special attention was paid to the location at the table: the higher the position and importance of the guest, the closer he sits to the host. But there were practically no concepts about table setting, as well as about the rules for using cutlery: then they ate mostly with their hands, putting food on slices of bread that replaced individual dishes.
The table during the feast was arranged in the shape of the letters "T" or "P". The host took the place at the head of the table. Since food until the 16th century was consumed mainly with hands, they often had to be wiped off. For this, all the same bread crumbs and, oddly enough, the floors of the tablecloths (despite the fact that they were usually made of rather expensive fabrics) served. Napkins also existed in those days, but they served for a different purpose: they could wrap a treat that the guest wanted to take with him (this was not considered shameful). On the table, meat dishes were served mostly whole, and the portion was cut off with their own knife or dagger.
An equally important attribute of the feast, which usually lasted for several hours, was a table conversation between guests. Initially, all guests were seated in the common room at the same table, which made it difficult to talk. In the 15th-16th centuries, the custom spreads when the host and the guests of honor feasted separately in a small living room. At the table, too serious topics were usually not discussed.

Eleventh question:

Tamara Pavlovna Bryukhanova plays against experts (Photo).

Attention, question. The Japanese prefer not to pronounce this word. If they were asked a question, they may well answer "yes", but this may mean a refusal.

Question: Name a word that the Japanese do not like to pronounce so much.

Slide 11 Answer: (the word "no")

Twelfth question:

Attention, black box. This item has been used since time immemorial. He was known back in Ancient Greece: They were served by the leaves of a fig tree, with which the slaves wiped their lips after eating to their masters. During the Middle Ages, this item became widespread in Europe. Interestingly, he was especially popular in those countries where men wore beards and mustaches. In Russia, he was sure to be part of the dowry of any girl, both poor and rich.

Question: What is in the black box?

Slide 12 Answer: (Napkin)

Reflection:

Summing up the game. Highlighting the most active players. Discussion of the most interesting questions from the point of view of the students. Writing wishes to each other and voicing to the opposing teams.

Guys, you were very active today, with all your behavior you showed each other and our distinguished guests how to behave correctly in society. Whatever profession you have mastered, knowledge of the rules of good manners is necessary everywhere, this characterizes you as a person. I thank you for the game and I want to wish you on my own behalf that you always and everywhere would be the standard of worthy behavior and pass on your skills and upbringing to your children in the future.

Conclusion:

I set myself a goal: to repeat basic ethical requirements in behavior and communication with people, and mastering the skills of cultural behavior through broadening the outlook of students about etiquette.

This event is aimed at the development of UUD (universal educational activities):

1. The inclusion of students in active work.

2. Group form of work; learners themselves determine common solutions.

3. The inclusion of students in the discovery of new knowledge.

4. Students in a playful way receive knowledge that will be useful to them later in life.

5. Students learn different ways expressing your thoughts, the art of arguing.

6. Students organize a form of activity where they can assimilate the necessary knowledge and a certain value series.

7. This event traces the pedagogy of cooperation.

I believe that these goals have been achieved at this extracurricular event.

“Translators "No. 1

… Parents should not interrupt their speeches, they should not contradict them ... but wait until they reprimand ...

…A lad should be very courteous and polite, both in words and in deeds: he is not impudent and not quarrelsome ...

…It is indecent for adolescents to play around with their hands or feet on the table everywhere, but one must behave quietly; and do not knock on the plates with forks and a knife ...

“Translators "No. 2

… Do not cough and similar such rude actions in the face of another, but always either close your hand, or turn your mouth to the side with a towel, so as not to touch anyone ...

… Having met an acquaintance, you should take off your hat in a pleasant way, and not past the past and look back to greet him ...

… Eat what lies in front of you, but don't grab anything else, don't take it with your fingers, don't swallow a piece, don't say ...

(Groups of students, after completing the assignment, present their understanding of the rules of conduct).

Development of extracurricular activities for schoolchildren of grades 7, 8 and 9 on the topic: Etiquette.

Meeting of the Faculty of Forgotten Truths etiquette club

Goals: fostering a culture of behavior in adolescents, a polite, respectful attitude towards people; development of creative original thinking, ingenuity, sense of humor, interest in human culture.

Preparation

1. The class is divided into two teams.

2. The cabinet is designed according to the topic.

Characters

Marquis Etiquette.

Event progress

Lead 1. Hello dear friends! We are glad to welcome you to the meeting of the Faculty of Forgotten Truths etiquette club. What the rules of etiquette are for is known to everyone.

Knowing the rules of cultural behavior, you will feel more confident in society, you will not get into a mess by saying or doing something that, according to etiquette, is considered disrespectful to others. Cramming the rules is not required, it is enough to understand their meaning. Therefore, it is necessary to start a conversation about them with history.

Marquis Etiquette. The rules of etiquette originated in ancient times as convenient and reasonable forms of communication. They existed and there are an infinite number of them. V Ancient China For example, there were about thirty thousand ceremonies: how to knock on the door, how to enter, how to get up, sit down, take a cup of tea - everything was strictly defined and scheduled. It took more than one year for children from wealthy classes to learn these rules. And to complete them it took so much time that only a person who was not burdened with worries and work could afford to "stand on ceremony". The people still have a memory of these complex rules. And when two people do not agree to enter the door one after the other, they say about them with irony: "Well, the Chinese ceremonies have been lit up."

In Japan, when several people gather at the table, everyone knows exactly where everyone should sit: who is at the niche with the picture - in the most honorable place, who is the first on his left, who is the second and who should sit at the entrance. Any attempt to sit in an "unfamiliar" place will only cause general confusion. This is exactly what happens when a visiting foreigner, wishing to be known as modest, stubbornly refuses the place assigned to him at the table.

The Japanese have very peculiar rules of good manners. Noticing an acquaintance, the Japanese considers it his duty, first of all, to freeze in place, even if the case takes place in the middle of the street and a tram is moving directly towards him. Then he kind of breaks in the lower back, the palms of his outstretched hands slide down his knees, and, frozen for a few more seconds in a bent position, he carefully lifts up only his eyes. It is impolite to straighten up first, and the bowers have to watch each other vigilantly.

From the outside, this scene gives the impression that both of them had enough lumbago, and they were unable to straighten up. Tokyo newspapers estimate that each employee makes these formal bows an average of 36 times a day, a sales agent 123 times, and a girl at the escalator in a department store 2,560 times.

In the crowd, a mysterious transformation takes place with the Japanese. Where do his refined manners, courtesy, courtesy disappear? He makes his way in the flow of people, completely oblivious to anyone. As long as passers-by on the street or passengers in the carriage remain unfamiliar, the Japanese considers himself entitled to treat them as inanimate objects. Sitting on the bus, he can shove a woman off the step without a twinge of conscience, maybe, using his knees, elbows, exchange kicks with a neighbor.

In Russia, the rules of good manners have evolved since time immemorial. These rules governed the relationship of people, and the set of prescriptions began to be drawn up relatively recently. In the 16th century, a collection called "Domostroy" appeared, a most valuable monument of medieval culture. He determined the rules of life of a medieval person, its economic, religious and family aspects. Domostroy talked about what it means to be moral, gave economic advice, and recommended recipes for traditional medicine.

The collection was based primarily on Christian morality, therefore, a large place in it was given to moral teachings. The concepts of morality and ethics were closely intertwined in such textbooks of life. It was believed that if a person is pleasing to God, pure and moral, then he will always do the right thing.

In the Brief Catechism of the Russian People of 1837, you can find a very interesting proposition that morality in Russian people does not need to be brought up: it is inherent in a person at his birth. "The consequence of a moral life is order, silence, tranquility, obedience to the home, all this is in the Russian land, therefore, Russians are moral."

22 years after the publication of the Catechism, in 1859, the Blagonamerenny magazine was published, where the section “Secular Philosophy, or the Book of Lives” no longer contains such fatal views on Russian morality. Moreover, this journal publishes specific pedagogical advice. “How to educate in institutes? - says one of the authors. - If the educated people know to bark in French, it doesn't matter what nonsense they have in their heads and hearts. Education must be divided into general and particular. Make a human out of a child, before a farmer, a warrior or a scientist. The freer the land is politically, the stricter should be the mores in private life. " And further: "Teach a young man to be poor, and he will get used to luxury himself." "Instill in him the concept of duty, and he will observe his own benefits by himself." “In China, a father is rewarded for the merits of a son, and in our country, a son is rewarded for the services of a father. To preserve morality, you need to use the Chinese principle. "

In the 19th century, numerous collections of rules, tips and instructions for different cases life: how it is customary in a secular society to behave at Christines, weddings, anniversaries, dinners, evenings, receptions, on a walk, in the theater, etc. Here are some of the titles of these publications: “ Savor and etiquette ”,“ Gentleman. Handbook of an elegant man "," For young fashionable gentlemen "," The art to please ladies and young girls. " The books contained appendices: a dueling code; samples of conversations and letters; advice on how to choose a rich bride, etc.

Presenter 2. The ability to behave in society does not come immediately. To comprehend the rules of politeness, no child is too small, as some parents believe. But even owning all the utensils, knowing when to take off your hat and when to kiss a lady's hand, you may not win the sympathy of those around you, if you are not cordial, delicate and restrained at the same time.

So, we start our game.

Street etiquette

Host 1. A person spends most of his time in public: on the street, in transport, in public places, at work and in educational institutions... Compliance with the rules of good manners in society is necessary in the same way as compliance with the rules of the road. Many rules of behavior among people are spoken of in the proverbs of the Russian people: "It is a bad thing to offend a neighbor", "The language will not dry out from courteous words," "Do not be rude to the little, it will not remember the old one." Our first competition is dedicated to street etiquette.

Envelope with a task for the first team

1. How will you behave when meeting your acquaintance on the street?

A. On the way I will shout "Hello!" or wave my hand.

B. I want to talk, I will stop.

B. After the greeting, I will slow down a little, giving my acquaintances the opportunity to take the initiative themselves.

ETIQUETTE AND WE

Lesson objectives:

To acquaint children with the rules of etiquette; to form students' understanding of the need to comply with the rules of ethical behavior.
Organize the acquaintance of children with the rules of behavior at the table, at a party; practice the use of words meaning a request, an apology.
To form the makings of self-control in the behavior of children.
Foster a welcoming atmosphere in their relationship.

The course of the lesson.

Guys, I invite you to flip through the pages of our magazine "Etiquette and We".

What is etiquette?

Etiquette is a set of norms and rules designed to regulate external forms of behavior. Dahl's dictionary says: “Etiquette is rank, order, observance of external rites and decency; ceremonial, outward ritualism. " Etiquette helps to find a way out in many life situations, promotes goodwill and mutual understanding: at school, at work, on the street, on public transport, in a store, on a visit.

Let's flip through the pages of our magazine.

Page one. Heading "Thank you".

A word to the editors of this section:

In the everyday life of a cultured person, polite words are always present.

What words do we call polite?

With the help of polite words, you can even return a sad person good mood.

And what does the word "hello" mean?

"Hello!" The kindness of a word

Faded in daily greetings

"Hello!" - Well, be healthy,

Live longer!

What other polite words do you know and when should you use them?

The game "polite words"(from the cut letters to make a magic word, three people are competing) (words: thank you, please, sorry.)

I'm sorry
Please,
Sorry, And let me.
These are not words, but a key from the soul.
In addition to our companion -
Multiplication tables -
There is also a table -
Respect table!
Remember, like the ABC,
Like twice two:
"Thank you" and "Please" -
magic words!
Wherever the immodest
Will point from the gate
The polite will ask
And it will pass.
Before the word polite
The doors will open!
Let it be repeated everywhere.
Remember, like the ABC,
Like twice two:
"Thank you" and "Please" -
Magic words.

Not only should words be kind, but deeds should also be such that neither we, nor parents, nor friends have to blush for them. We must try to be useful to people always and with everyone.

Page two. Category "Familiar"

Guess what this is about? That's right, we'll talk about the rules for dating, introducing and handling.

What dating rules do you know?

A word to the editors ...

The younger ones are represented or, if necessary, by themselves

appear to be elders.

The same, with an obvious difference in social status: junior

introduces himself to the elder.

A woman, regardless of age and position, never

appears to the man first.

There may be exceptions to the last rule, for example, if this

the woman is a student and the man is an honorary professor.

When you introduce someone or introduce you, try

look the interlocutor in the face. And smile. Acquaintance started with

a benevolent smile will surely have a positive

continuation.

Introducing a person, you should clearly pronounce his name and

last name.

Among peers, it is quite acceptable to call only

name.

Page three. Heading "Hello".

And what will be discussed here? Why do we need greetings at all?

A word to our editors

What kind of greetings people do not use: "salute", "chao", "hello", etc. The movements and gestures that have long been exchanged by people from different countries at the moment of greeting are even more diverse. Some bowed to the waist, others fell to their knees, hitting the ground with their foreheads, others brought their hands to their foreheads and to their hearts, fourths touched their noses, fifths showed their tongues.

And the officers of the royal guards snapped their heels loudly and dropped their heads on their chests. High society ladies squatted in deep curtsy. The valiant musketeers bowed gracefully and waved their splendid hats. The knights lifted the visor of their heavy helmets and pulled off their combat gauntlets. You can't list it in a word.

And even now. Look around. Here the military passed - they saluted. Two men met and shook hands. And these people waved their hands in greeting. The women have not seen each other for a long time, they hug. And the girls: they ran into each other - smack, smack, chattered and fled.

What is the general meaning of the greeting?

Who can you greet with the word "great", "hello"?

Where did the custom of taking off gloves come from?

Answer: Since knightly times. Taking off the glove from his right hand, the knight showed that he treats the oncoming ones kindly!

The first to extend his hand is the eldest woman, the woman to the man.

A handshake is a short, energetic shake of the hand. And although they say "Strong handshake", this does not mean one that makes your fingers numb and hurts. But also not a sluggish "cat's paw".

If a meeting of acquaintances takes place on the street when it is cool and people are wearing gloves, men must take off their gloves before shaking hands, and women according to their convenience and discretion, but women also need to take off their winter mittens. A hand served without a glove is, first of all, a sign of respect for a person. Not accepting a hand extended to shake hands is considered an insult.

Hats also play a role in the greeting.

Where did the tradition of taking off the cap at the entrance to the house come from?

Answer: The custom originated at the time of the knights who constantly wandered around the country, dressed in armor. Entering the house, the knight took off his helmet, as if saying with this gesture to the owner: "I am not afraid of you!"

To take off or not take off the headdress now depends on the time of the year, and on the nature of the headdress. On the street, they do not take off their winter and ski caps, they take, but they raise the hat (behind the crown), the cap (for the visor). But, entering a closed room, the greeting man takes off any headdress.

Who can I say goodbye to?

How to communicate with adults?

How should one say goodbye to children, to adults?

There is another form of goodbye: "Bon voyage."

A tired man walks, wipes off sweat with his hand. Have a good trip!

The carriage crawls, a tired horse is carrying it. Have a good trip!

And in the oceans there are ships, far from their homeland. Have a good trip!

Let those who are driving, who are walking, will always find their way home. Have a good trip!

How do you say goodbye, leaving school, with the guys, with the teachers?

How do you say goodbye to your parents when you go to bed?

Our correspondents visited one of the schools. Here's what they saw there.

II. Discussion of the scenes played by the children.

1. Meeting of two friends ( scene)

Two boys meet each other.

How are you dude? - slaps a friend on the shoulder first with all his might

Be healthy, boar, - answers the second, pushing the first.

2. The boy entered the classroom, greets the teacher ( scene).

The bell rang, the teacher starts the lesson. Andrey was late. He enters the class wearing a hat and mittens. Comes up to the teacher. Stretches out his hand in a mitten: "Hello, Lilia Nikolaevna!"

3. The boy greets the girl, ( scene)

Nikita, running past Natasha, pulls her pigtail and shouts in her ear: "Hello, Petrova!"

4. Teachers are talking in the school hallway. Among them, Oleg saw his class teacher and, passing by, said politely: "Hello, Igor Semenovich." Did Oleg do the right thing?

People celebrate the simplest and most frequent event in their life in different ways - a meeting with another person. To evade a greeting or not to answer it at all times and among all peoples was considered the height of bad manners and disrespect for others. Indeed, in the bow, in the short words of greetings, there is a very large and important content: "I see you, man! You are pleasant to me. Know that I respect you and want you to treat me well. I wish you all the best: health, peace, fun, happiness. " This is what simple and ordinary means HELLO!

Page four. Heading "Gostiysk".

- Have you ever wondered why, in fact, people go to visit?

There are probably many reasons for this. Firstly, it is very pleasant when, seeing you, someone will be delighted and smile warmly. Secondly, different people gather at a party; they will talk about this, about this - and everyone will benefit: they learned the news, discussed events, exchanged information - and everyone became a little richer, smarter. And one more thing: people are used to sharing good things with each other. That is why people have been visiting for a long time to the present day.

The word to our editors ...

The environment of any person is family, loved ones, friends, work colleagues, acquaintances and strangers. And communication with them is expressed in a very different way: talking on the phone, exchanging letters, short-term visits and just casual meetings on the street. And yet, of all types of communication, the most pleasant is associated with hospitality. Its national traditions have evolved over the centuries.

This custom has long been known. If a guest finds himself in a Caucasian village, in a highlander's house and praises some thing, then, no matter how dear to the owner, his honor will not allow not to present it to the guest. He will even be offended if he turns out to be from a gift.

It is not customary for the Japanese to receive guests at home. But if they do manage to do this, they will apologize for a long time for the modesty of the table, although there will be an abundance of all kinds of treats on it.

In the Central Asian republics, guests are often received in the courtyard, which is, as it were, part of the house. And in Turkish families, guests can even be invited to the bathhouse, which, in addition to its main purpose, plays the role of a kind of club, there they talk, listen to singers and storytellers, play various instruments and play chess.

The British will not worry about the abundance of food, they will limit themselves to only the smallest: they believe that they do not go to visit in order to eat and drink a lot and tasty, but to have a pleasant time talking with people for whom they feel a special disposition.

For a long time, very clear and definite ideas have been developed about how to behave as a host and how to behave as a guest.

So, you've been invited to a birthday party. And now it's important to think about how you dress..

Game "We are going to visit":there are piles of cards on the table, you need to select a card and explain why this item of clothing is suitable for this situation.

You were invited to visit, you thought about what to wear. Now let's talk about how to congratulate your friend what you wish him.

When choosing a gift, you need to try to find something that will appeal not to you, but to the birthday person. Assess the situations.

An old favorite toy.
DIY application.
Flowers.

Gift needs to be beautifully wrapped (competition)

When accepting a gift, the birthday person must necessarily say something to the guest. And what exactly, we will find out by playing the game. If you like my answer - clap your hands, and if not - say: "Ooh".

Thank you, I am very glad. A wonderful gift.

Oh, you gave the same gift as my parents.

Thank you, I have long dreamed of such a gift.

What a pity! I thought you were going to give me a doll!

And I already have such a game!

Thank you, this is a very good gift!

You had fun at a party,

They ate, sang and danced

Rested, frolicked,

They began to gather together.

In conclusion, of course,

I will remind you without concealment:

Do not forget you heartily

Praise the hostess for everything.

For attention and participation,

For a hospitable home.

Wish your home happiness.

And let's part on that one.

From childhood it is necessary to master the science of communication, to master the ability to behave among people in such a way that everyone feels good, pleasant, and comfortable. You have to learn to be a good guest, a good host.

Page five. Category "Social"

What places are called public? What will the conversation go about?

The word to our editors ...

Each of us goes to the cinema, shop, theater, museum. We are satisfied with a purchase or a performance, a film or an excursion, if we are in a good mood. After all, a friendly spoken word leaves a trace in the soul for the whole day.

Being in society, you have to follow the rules of communication, follow the rules of politeness. Which?

- Going to the cinema, will you change your appearance?

Should you rush to the beginning of a session or performance?

There is one law in cinema.

Know that he is very important:

To those who came to watch the film,

You need to get into the hall in time

After the third call.

And you linger a little -

They won't let you into the cinema

Because I was late.

Here, you hear, it sounded

The third time is already a signal.

Go to the cinema right there,

Find your place there

Sit down, make yourself comfortable

And wait for the beginning of the film.

Passing through the seats

Turn your face to people

And say, "I beg your pardon,"

You will be just fine!

A play or a film lasts 1-2 hours. Many, getting hungry, begin to rustle with a candy wrapper, gnaw seeds.

Could it have been done differently?

And during the performance

You can't eat, you can't chat:

You will interfere with the audience

And distract the actors.

The actors didn't read last words, the curtain has not yet closed, the light has not turned on, but there is noise and stomp in the hall, everyone gets up and hurries to the exit.

Why can't this be done?

Every student has known these rules for a long time.

It is necessary for those to go to the cinema who observes them.

Whatever you do, you must always remember that you are not alone in the world. You are surrounded by people, your loved ones, your comrades. You should behave in such a way that it would be easy and pleasant for them to live next to you. This is what true upbringing and true politeness consist in.

"Good manners
possesses the one
who is the smallest
number of people
puts
into an awkward position. "
J. Swift.

Introductory part: Students' speech.

Agniya Barto

Reading a poem.

1 student. Friends, here's just in case

Poems about one schoolboy.

His name is ... but better

We will not name him here.

2 student. "Thanks Hello",

"sorry" -

He was not used to pronouncing.

Simple word"sorry"

His tongue did not overpower

3 student. He is often lazy

Say "Good afternoon" at the meeting.

It would seem like a simple word

And he is shy, silent

And at best "great"

He says hello instead.

4 student. And instead of the word "goodbye"

He doesn't say anything.

Or say goodbye:

"Well, I went, bye, everything."

5 student. He won't tell his friends at school

"Alyosha", "Petya", "Vanya", "Tolya".

He only calls his friends

"Alyoshka", "Petka", "Vanka", "Only".

1 presenter. But for us, guys, according to the writer I. Turgenev, “the great and mighty Russian language was given to us,” the language of Pushkin, Lermontov and Tolstoy. So is it worth replacing it with some kind of surrogate? Isn't it better to make the language of the great Russian literature a model of our speech?

What is the topic of our today's event? Why do we need it? What are the goals of our event?

Goals: 1. To acquaint children with the essence and types of etiquette.

2. Develop ethical skills, form good habits.

3. Developing skills to work in a small group and team.

Representation of each team: Name, Motto, Commander.

What is etiquette? History of origin in the Middle Ages and in Russia.

The word "etiquette" appeared under King Ludwik XIV in France. At one of the magnificent receptions of the king, all the guests were presented with cards with the rules of conduct that the guests must observe. These cards were called "labels". This is where the concept of "etiquette" originated - good manners, good manners, and the ability to behave in society.

Etiquette in the Middle Ages.

Many of the rules have survived into the Middle Ages. Take off your hat or glove when greeting. The medieval knight, wanting to show that he was in the circle of friends (if he had nothing to fear), took off his helmet or raised his visor. Subsequently, the nobleman took off or raised his hat when greeting. Later, they began to take off their hat in front of a superior person, and when greeting an equal, they only touched it. Women were always greeted by taking off their headdress. This retual was preserved in the 19th century, without changing over the centuries.

In Russia, the word "etiquette" was introduced at the beginning of the 17th century. At first, etiquette was used as a court ceremony. With the advent of book printing, the first etiquette manuals began to appear. The first book on etiquette was called Domostroy. It outlined the rules of human behavior in Everyday life... Peter I, who traveled a lot in Europe, really wanted his subjects to be like Europeans. He wanted to adopt their customs and customs. Under Peter I

In 1717, a book about good manners was published under the title "Honest Mirror of Youth". This book was addressed to young people and talked about the rules of behavior in society.

A raised nobleman was supposed to be polite and courteous, to know foreign languages, be able to speak eloquently, treat elders with respect.

What is politeness?

(The word "politeness" comes from the Old Slavic "vezhe", that is, "expert." To be polite, therefore, to know how to behave, and treats others with respect)

(They consider modesty, restraint, delicacy, the ability to control their actions, carefully and tactfully communicate with people.)

Warm-up of courtesy. Complete the phrase that I will be reading.

The old stump will turn green when he hears ... (good afternoon).

If we can’t eat anymore, we tell our mother ... (thanks).

A boy, polite and developed. Says, meeting ... (Hello).

When we are scolded for pranks, we say ... (forgive us, please).

And in France and Denmark they say goodbye to everyone ... (goodbye).

First round "Polite team". For each correct answer 1 point.

Tasks on pieces of paper. The task must be completed within 5 minutes. Highlight the correct answer.

I command. Name __________________________________

Your attention is offered the words of politeness, which are pronounced to emphasize their disposition towards the interlocutor. They are often heard at the beginning of a conversation. What words do you think are the most used?

A) good morning;

B) great;

B) hello;

D) hello;

You are on the bus and want to get to the exit. What words did you pronounce correctly?

A) forgive me, I'm going out!

B) let me pass.

Q) excuse me, can I go through?

D) make way, I'm going.

Your friend has done a bad deed in front of your eyes. How will you behave?

A) I will declare that we are no longer friends.

B) I will express my attitude to his act and promise to break off the friendship if this happens again.

C) I will say that I did not notice.

D) I will not say anything.

You call on the phone and are going to call a friend or girlfriend. Choose the most polite form of your request?

A) Call Katya.

B) Hello, please call Katya.

C) Hello, call Katya.

D) hello, excuse me, is Katya at home? Can I call her on the phone?

You are late. You don't have a watch. How do you ask a passerby the time?

A) Tell me, what time is it?

B) Can you tell me what time it is?

C) Please tell me what time is it?

D) Hey! How much time?

Having greeted the teacher once, is it worth it to greet again when you meet?

C) it is possible, but not necessary.

D) you can replace words with a smile.

Second round. “Culture of behavior in public places”. Homework.

Each team performs a three-minute scene in different places and situations. And each hero will introduce himself without observing the rules of etiquette. Those teams that pay attention to non-polite behavior, for the conversation of the participants' speech, which show scenes, 1 point is given.

Team 1. Scene "Talking on the phone".

Team 2. Scene "In the theater".

Team 3. Scene "On the bus".

Team 4. Scene "Communication with the teacher".

Team 5. Scene "In the Museum".

Third round "Yes-no"

Teams take turns asks the teacher questions that require a positive or negative answer. For each correct answer - 1 point.

Are there loud conversations at the table? (No)

Do they take bread from the table with a fork? (No)

The boy is the first to enter dark room? (Yes)

Birthday present even number flowers? (No)

Is it appropriate for children to send compliments to very elderly people? (No)

Fourth round "Quiz of courtesy". "Mission for commanders"

Commanders come out of each team and questions are prepared for them on sheets of paper, they choose and consult with the team. The question is repeated, which must be answered correctly. Each team has 3 questions. For the correct answer -1 point.

Who should greet first: standing or passing? (The passing one greets first).

Who is the first to greet each other when entering the premises? (The first person to greet is always incoming, regardless of gender and age).

A man and a woman enter the room. Who should enter first? (The lady always enters first.)

When talking on the phone, who greets first? (Caller, introducing himself).

If the connection is interrupted while talking on the phone, who should call back? (Caller).

You received a box of chocolates as a gift, what will you do with it? (Received as a gift fruits, chocolates, sweets, cake are offered to everyone).

You come to the cinema and make your way to your seat in a row filled with seated people. How should you pass - with your face or with your back to the seated? (Face).

You accidentally pushed someone. What is the correct way to say “I'm sorry” or “I'm sorry”? (Sorry).

Who is the first to hang up the phone - a man or a woman? (Female).

Can I bring my dog into the store? (No, even if she's small.)

What to do if a person older than you is standing next to you in the transport? (Give place to).

Can two people have a conversation if there is one more person with them? (It is impossible to conduct a conversation in which all those present do not take part: a third person may think that it is about him or that they do not trust him).

You came to visit with gifts and flowers. How should they be presented? What should the birthday person / host / do with the gift? (Flowers are held in the left hand, the gift is presented unfolded or in beautiful packaging... The birthday person / host / must open the gift and see what is in it).

You came by invitation, but there are already many guests in the house. Your actions? (Give a hand to the hostess and the owner, and to the rest, slightly bowing, say: "Hello").

Fifth round "Spot the differences of courtesy".

The slides show pictures and you need to say where the heroes behave correctly and where they don't. The correct answer - 1 point

At the table.

In public transport.

Sixth round "Proverb by proverb". What does the proverb mean? For the correct answer 1 point.

Rules of behavior inherent in this or that nation, found their reflection in folklore: proverbs and sayings. There are such proverbs among the Russian people. Let's remember them!

They don't go to someone else's monastery with their own charter.

They don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

Seven don't wait for one.

A thin world is better than a good quarrel

Do not throw a stone into someone else's garden.

Teach your grandmother to suck eggs.

Put the fool at the table, and he and his feet on the table.

Every cricket know your six.

Learn good - bad things will not come to mind.

Speak boldly about a good deed.

Life is given for good deeds.

As you live, you will be known.