How to get a girl back in different life situations? What not to do if you want to get your girlfriend and former relationship back

Any relationship between two people can be complex. And this is natural, because two different people are involved in them, and misunderstandings, various kinds of problems are often simply unavoidable.

As for love relationship in a pair, then the matter becomes even more complicated, since they carry too many aspects. Consequently, the relationship between loved ones is not always smooth and stable.

It often happens that a couple reaches a dead end, and the girl decides to just leave. In such situations, the guys simply cannot understand what is the matter. In these moments, men are very vulnerable, as they often simply do not know the true reason for the departure of their beloved. This situation can infuriate anyone, even the most balanced person. And that is why a man begins to make mistakes one after another, which further aggravates everything and becomes the reason for the end of the relationship.

In order to avoid such an undesirable result, the help of a specialist is needed. And today in this article we will talk about important issues, namely:

how to get your beloved back;
how not to make mistakes, for which you will have to pay very dearly.

As everyone can notice, this article is useful and important for everyone who wants to build serious relationships and protect them from any hardships.

A few words about the important

In fact, staying in a relationship is much more difficult than just finding a new girlfriend. This is important to understand and accept.

And in the event that your girlfriend is unknown reasons refuses to meet with you, answer your calls, etc., then the first step is to ask the main question: do you want to return your beloved? If the answer is yes, then you need to be patient and not lose your calmness. And in order to get it back, you need to follow the simple advice of psychologists who will help you.

Why does a guy's behavior and patience play a key role in this matter? But because, unfortunately, many men, having learned about the decision of their girls to leave them, begin to behave just awfully, aggressively, begin to be rude, annoy with drunken visits, etc. (I think the picture is clear to everyone).

But in fact, a girl leaves a guy in 90% of cases precisely because the latter has lost his dignity in her eyes. Therefore, first of all, you must show her that you have changed, become better, more attentive.

The mistake of the majority is that they think: “My girlfriend wants me to apologize and humiliate myself a hundred times. And I will not humiliate myself. " In fact, your girlfriend wants her boyfriend to be logical, respectful, and more empathetic.

In practice, everyone has a number of familiar couples, where a girl leaves her boyfriend three times a week, and then returns again, and they live peacefully until the next time.

In this article, we will not talk about this type of "parting", which in its essence is nothing more than a simple way of blackmailing and influencing a man. And if you have just such a case, then there are 2 options:

Accept your beloved manipulator and cajole her with "excuseful gifts." But keep in mind that this will be for life.
Decide for yourself whether you need such a relationship, and if not, put an end to it.

It is for this reason that it is important to decide: if you do not have the above case and the girl left you not out of "habit", then in order to return her, you must understand some important nuances.

If your girlfriend is not a manipulator, and after a certain stage in the relationship she shows her coolness towards you, and after a while she even declares that it is time to leave, since there is no point in continuing this relationship, then hack into your nose: in this case, a gift or an apology is simply inappropriate, as it can cause a backlash from the girls.

Often, not knowing this, guys drive their loved ones to hysteria by calling a million times and apologizing, or by writing tearful text messages.

Therefore, it is more important to always determine the degree of the girl's seriousness. Since the correctness and effectiveness of your actions depends entirely on this.

Main question

Until you find the answer to the main question "why did your girlfriend leave?", All your attempts to get her back will go to zero, and there will be no chance of getting her back. After all, in fact, there is no smoke without fire, and if a girl (not a manipulator) decided to leave her boyfriend, then there must be a good reason for this.

In 90% of cases, the reason is that the guy she was once crazy about, behavior, manners, words, thoughts and, of course, appearance whom she was delighted with, the person from meeting with whom she enjoyed and longed for these meetings most of all, now for some reason began to change.

When a relationship lasts a long time, then each of the partners changes over the years. And then one fine moment your girlfriend may notice that she no longer knows you, that you have become strangers to each other.

In this case, there are two possible reasons for the separation:

The guy has changed and now just does not delight her.
The guy does not change, despite the fact that the years go by, and the girl has already moved to a new level and for her you are already incomprehensible with your old jokes, customs that she is already tired of.

It doesn't matter which reason you have of these two, the consequences in both cases are parting, if serious steps are not taken in time and the situation is not corrected.

Opening the curtain, or the most important thing

If almost a month has passed since your separation, and you have already made almost all the mistakes that 95% of men make when trying to get their loved ones back, she has heard your apologies, which you sprinkled on her with everyone possible ways(Internet, phone, mutual acquaintances and friends), or you also managed to bore her with your arrival from the place of work, trying to explain how she is wrong and how unfair she is to you and all that, then it's time to stop and admit to yourself that your ways don't work at best. And at worst, they can also aggravate the situation.

Well, judge for yourself, does a girl need a guy who is always begging for attention, love and tears trying to get the relationship back? Of course not! A woman doesn't need a boyfriend in need. Therefore, leave your wrong attempts and listen to the opinion of a specialist.

Psychologists call this period "the wall", since all the guy's attempts remain without results.

At first glance, this is a dead-end situation, and everyone may have a question, what to do to get the girl back? So, below is a working method step by step.

Calmness. For a long time, everyone has known one truth: a person cannot appreciate what he has. And your girlfriend will never truly appreciate you as long as you are there all the time: with your calls, messages and just your presence. This gives her the advantage of manipulating you. Indeed, in this case, she will be sure that you will always come running to her with an apology and do whatever she wants.

If you don't value yourself and keep your distance, it will turn you into unnecessary material that is easy to manage and then quit.

And when you are calm and confident, the girl herself will want to return you. After all, a calm, self-confident guy among girls is associated with strength, and every girl wants to have a strong guy.

In other words, be a little selfish, mind your own business and although it is difficult, do not show your suffering and a strong desire to return her.

Often, it is at this first stage that the girl herself returns to her boyfriend, as she realizes that she can really lose him.

Ignoring. If the first stage did not return your beloved to you, then you must not give up, but go to the next step: get lost from sight for at least a month. And most importantly, at this stage it is necessary to fence off not only from your beloved, but also from those acquaintances who can convey something about you to her.

This is the most difficult stage, and this is where many give up and ruin the whole thing. You can often catch yourself staring at your photos for hours. You dream about her, follow her on social networks and ascribe to yourself all her new statuses (although in fact this is not entirely true). However, if you hold out until the end, then the results may pleasantly surprise you.

And you don't just have to sit and suffer. During this period, you need to work on yourself: change your image, become successful, so that when you meet, your girlfriend will be pleasantly surprised and fall in love with you again. If you can't change your life for the better right away in a month like this, then you can at least try to create such an image for yourself.

A meeting. After you have successfully gone through two stages and you already have a new image, it is time to move on to the next stage - meeting your girlfriend. By this time, you are already calm, have yourself and can contact her without mistakes.

Many girls, after a month of calm, have already realized their mistake and are simply afraid that you will be able to quit it completely. Therefore, your appearance in her life becomes a mini-holiday for her, and she willingly agrees to meet with you. After all, during this time she herself managed to miss you, and she just wonders where you disappeared.

That is why call her and invite her somewhere. A "chance encounter" will also work here. So the choice is yours.

If she did not agree to meet with you, then it will take more time for her, leave her alone for another 2 weeks and try again.

First meeting after breaking up

In no case should you come to her with a large bouquet and start a conversation about how much you missed, that you want to return everything as it was, and so on.

It is important to remember the rule: the first meeting after separation should last no more than 40 minutes.

The second rule: you need to speak laconically, during a conversation, never make even a hint of the past, and not a word about your torment.

The meeting should end with the fact that you enjoyed talking to her. No tearful goodbyes, etc.

After the first meeting, you have a "vacation" again. About a week, no calls, no messages. Even if she writes herself, wait at least two days and only then answer her. You will show your strength, and this will only play into your hands.

Another meeting

In the event that the first meeting made an impression on her, and she saw changes in you, then she herself will burn out with curiosity and look for new meetings with you. Don't give in right away. Trade, because if you hook it, you can be sure it won't go anywhere else.

That is, you don't need to spend hours chatting with her on social networks or chatting on the phone. Make her come to unpromising meetings, say, for walks in the park. And now, after a couple of meetings, you can already compliment her, “accidentally” touch her cheek, hug, etc.

It is important to remember that during these meetings you must completely control yourself. Your girlfriend should understand that you live well without her (believe me, this is a strong blow for any girl). She should know that you are not trying to bring her back with these meetings.

In the event that after the first meeting she does not take the next step herself, then you need to spark interest in her: upload a new, bright photo on the social network, spread the rumor about your new success and after a few days invite her to the meeting again. But don't forget the above rules.

The final touch is your detached behavior and all three steps will do the trick and you will have sex with your girlfriend. Remember, however, this is not your ultimate goal. Since there are times that after sex, a girl runs away from a guy again. And all because he relaxed too much and revealed his cards, showing that everything was just dust in her eyes (the biggest mistake the guys made). If the girl after sex realizes that you have not changed at all, and now the same as she left you, then this time she will leave irrevocably.

That is why remember the most important thing: treat her not as your ex-girlfriend, whom you want to return in every possible way, but as a new girl, and she needs to be seduced and conquered again.

These are exactly the steps that will help you return your beloved, of course, everything is not so simple here, however, it is very possible.

And what is important, going through these stages, you yourself change, you begin to look at your relationship in a different way. After these stages, reuniting with her, you understand that your girlfriend needs personal space just like you, you begin to appreciate yourself and her. And all this is only for the benefit of your relationship.

Behavior errors, or caution: dangerous

To bring back your beloved and past good relationship, every man should know not only what he should do, but what should not be done in any case. Since there is a style of behavior and actions that will not only not return your girlfriend, but also alienate her far from you.

Depression. You can't drive yourself into a corner, get depressed, drink only so that guilt wakes up in her and so that she begins to feel sorry for you.
Manipulation. There is no need to manipulate, use money, children (if any), acquaintances to make her come back.
The very charm - you cannot become a cute toy in her arms, which all the time repeats how much he needs her and how she loves her.
Signs of attention. Yes, every girl loves signs of attention, but if she left you, then your gifts, flowers and the like, most likely, will annoy her, but certainly will not return her to you.
Arguments - no need to prove, give logical arguments that she should return. If a woman decided to leave, then she did it without thinking logically, but completely relying on her intuition and emotions, so your conclusions will only alienate you from each other.

Remember these points, when the girl leaves you, and do not make the mistakes of the majority. All you can achieve by doing any of this list is complete separation from your beloved.

Something in the end

At first glance, following the above tips is almost impossible. However, remember, doing nothing at first, temporarily moving away and calm down is the best option. After all, this method is not based on feelings, but on female psychology. And by understanding her psychology, you can turn her into an agreeable girl who can no longer possess herself. And without self-control, re-winning your girlfriend is easier than ever.

Therefore, work on yourself and make it so that, seeing your strength and character, she wants you again.

You really suck
I don’t want to live, I don’t want to sleep, because you want to return your beloved girl ...

Has she already told you?

"We need to talk seriously."
"I want to live alone for a while"
"Something went wrong with us"
"You are not the person with whom I want a relationship"

In this situation, one cannot hesitate, since at any moment she can have sex with another man or is already engaged.

Sit back and get ready to read this article.

My name is Anatoly Loginov (Tomas). Head of the TLC School of Relations

For more than 10 years I have been advising men on a variety of difficult situations in their personal life.

In this article, I described unique and proven ways to get your girlfriend back!

Gifts and flowers, and even more so, apologies or pleas should be put aside. It won't work, it will only kill her respect and her sexual desire to you as a man. Agree, not a single girl wants to be torn apart by a needy and spineless slobber (I will use it in Russian). Returning an ex-girlfriend can only be done with sound mind and thoughtful actions!

First, it is important to understand the possible reason for the breakup. Indeed, over time, even in the strongest relationships, crises occur. It often happens that a girl no longer sees in you the guy who delighted her. The reason may be that you have stopped developing, but on the contrary, she is moving forward. Maybe you have gone headlong into work and it lacks emotions, an interesting pastime. Maybe lately you have not spoken frankly enough and she has ceased to feel emotional closeness with you. Maybe you began to forget about foreplay and pay attention to at least 30 minutes of excitement of the girl before sex, so she stopped having time to cum and this began to excite her? Or maybe her friends inspired her that she was worthy of a richer man, and you stopped telling her about your business plans?

There are dozens of reasons in your specific situation, most likely we are dealing not with one specific, but with a whole complex. And we do not need speculation, but real facts.

Therefore, her neatly hacked VKontakte account, or Viber, or WhatsApp can help you get her back. Only the first thing to read is not the correspondence with men, but the correspondence with the best friend. Most likely there you will find all your mistakes.

But even after that, you should not cut off the phone, rape messengers with thousands of SMS apologies and pleas that now you have understood everything and now everything will change. All these attempts will be in vain to crash against the “wall”.

Another strategy is needed here to help bring the woman back.

Do you know how to return the girl you love? - Then arm yourself with an effective recipe for success!

You need to realize the fact of parting. The sooner you realize that your girlfriend is really gone and it's not just a fight - the better. To amuse yourself with hopes and wait for everything to work out is not an option. You need to calm down and stop being a weakling, it's time to become independent and defiantly start doing your own thing!

Ending the persecution. Calls, text messages, “chance encounters” and even likes on her Instagram photos - all of this should be stopped!

Complete ignore. In order to rid yourself of the image of a weakling and a rag that is walking on your heels, it is necessary to disappear from the girl's life, to carry out a complete blackout for a period of 3-6 weeks. You need to protect yourself from all kinds of contacts with her, and even with those who can "convey" something to her about you.

Yes, it's hard, but this time will be good. During this time, you should create an image of a successful man, which will be the opposite of the one she left. The entourage will also be useful, for example, new photos somewhere in interesting places, in new clothes, with new people she doesn't know. This will undoubtedly become the reason for her increased interest in your life;

Analysis of your mistakes. When the passions have subsided, you have already created for yourself the image of a “dominant cat” and withstood the time, it is time to analyze your mistakes, find the reason why the girl still left you, in what you could not suit her. And also, it is important to understand how you have changed;

It is important to change your appearance and demeanor, because it will not work to return a woman if you remain who you were during the breakup. It's important to become who your ex wanted to see in you. The easiest way to quickly change is to take the online training "Taste of Life 2.0", but more on that later;

It's time to get in touch. After a period of a kind of boycott, it was time for a meeting. Even the fact that she has a boyfriend shouldn't stop you, because 3-6 weeks is a period when a girl begins to doubt her choice, thinks about the past, she thinks about you!

You can call yourself or arrange a "random meeting", the main thing is to get in touch. Suggest just a friendly walk with the aim of just chatting. At the time when you propose to take a walk, you should be relaxed and confident, not a word about relationships!

Important so that during these 3-6 weeks of pause, you will be able to charm and have sex with at least 2-3 new, pleasant girls. Remember how you were with them. What did you talk about, how did you behave.

Be bright and relaxed in this meeting. No flowers and no talk that you missed or remembered her, not a word about experiences and that you want to return her. Communicate with her as if nothing happened in the past. Communicate with her in the same way as you interacted with the girls whom you seduced. Be bright, tell interesting stories, charm! The speech is confident, but at the same time affectionate and flirting. Act according to the situation.

If you feel warmth from her, force events - start stroking her hands, kissing her neck - turn on all your charms and excite her so that you have sex on the same evening. Sex is a very powerful hook and the sooner you put it in her, the better. This is where your reconciliation will begin.

If at the first meeting she behaves cool towards you, you should not go on the attack. It is worth using a blow below the belt - to tell her that these 3-6 weeks you began and ended an affair with a girl. To her logical question about “why didn’t work out”, tell about this, possibly mythical, girl, endowing her with the negative qualities of your ex.
“She didn’t know how to do anything around the house, and you know that it’s important to me.”
"She devoted too much time to sorting out the relationship, and instead of just enjoying life, she constantly arranged some kind of burdensome conversations."
“At some point, she began to act as if she saved my life, and now I owe and owe her in my life.”

Important so that in this characteristic the girl sees herself and thus we throw the thought into her brain that 3-6 weeks ago she did not abandon you, but a mutual separation occurred and certain mistakes were made on her part. Once you are convinced that these thoughts have been thrown into her head, the meeting can be ended.

Second meeting.
If your arrows hit the target, she herself will contact you and initiate communication. Communicate as if nothing had happened. Like a new girl you want to charm and seduce. Like the girl you had nothing with. Send her pictures in the vibe, voice messages in the WhatsApp, because you are positive and cheerful. Your task is to evoke a positive response and reciprocal flirting. Once this task is completed, invite her to a repeat meeting.
The best way for this - dinner, and then a joint trip to night club... Where you can drink a little, maybe smell something, flirt, hold hands, hug and end up at your house (or where she now lives alone, and you used to live together) and have sex. It is important here that the sex is as hard as possible. Become an animal. Fuck her like an animal. It is imperative to have anal sex as well. Psychologically, anal sex involves a girl's desire to obey.

Do not relax. Even after sex, do not think that you were able to return the girl and now she will not go anywhere. It's a delusion. Now it is doubly important for you to be more attentive to her thoughts, feelings and not to allow a situation when she again winds something up in her head. It is important for you to constantly speak frankly in order to neutralize the barely nascent rudiments of discontent.
If you again ignore her inner feelings and experiences (for example, you go headlong into work again), then she will leave you again.

Therefore, bring your relationship but a new depth of emotional closeness, if you want to preserve them. So you can not only bring your ex-girlfriend back, but also make your relationship even stronger and more harmonious.

With the help of my advice, hundreds of men were able to bring the girl back after breaking up and create new, strong relationships. I hope you succeed.

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Beloved went to another, just fell out of love, realized that you are not on the way? There are many options for reasons and reasons for such an act. And although it seems that now it is too late to do anything, the heart and feelings in every possible way protest against "surrendering their positions."

The question of how to return a beloved girl worried young people many centuries ago and still has not lost its relevance. What to do? First of all, you need to understand that you will not be able to enter the same river twice, but it is possible to change yourself and repeat the attempt to improve relations.

If you want to return to old feelings and relationships, you need to calm down the boiling cauldron of emotions and listen to the recommendations of psychologists. And these tips are largely the same as the usual worldly wisdom, proven for centuries.

So, experts in human souls advise guys to take the following steps:

Consider whether you need to return your ex. Perhaps you yourself, deep down, wanted to break this relationship, and now only male pride cries out in you, which does not allow you to come to terms with the fact that it was the girl who left first. If pondering the situation showed that love and warm feelings remained, you are ready to change for her sake and put aside reproaches and resentments, it makes sense to start active actions.
Think carefully about the current situation, try to clarify and find out at what point a fatal mistake was made in a relationship with an ex-girlfriend. It is extremely important to forget about the quarrels between you and forgive your beloved if she became the culprit of the breakup.
Try to arrange a meeting with the girl, explain to her again, avoiding scandals and accusations. Be sure to clarify that you have realized your mistake and are ready to resume the relationship. The likelihood of a positive development for you is high enough, especially if you show that you value her feelings and become more responsible.
If the ex-lover does not want to date, try to keep your distance for a while and wait until she cools down and is ready for a serious conversation.

Before considering ways to get your girlfriend back, you need to clarify the list of actions that are strictly contraindicated. Can you use them? Yes, but only if you want to permanently alienate your ex-lover from yourself.

No need to constantly call, talk about love, send gifts. Women's psychology is such that a guy on his knees and begging for forgiveness seems to be a creature unworthy of attention. Your active imposition will generally destroy at least some respect and further alienate the ex-lover.
Refuse the threat to commit suicide. Unfortunately, this method is quite common among the stronger sex. Firstly, even if it works, then keeping the girl next to you will not be love, but pity. Secondly, the next time such a trick will no longer work, since the young lady will develop a kind of immunity to threats.
Global changes should not be promised. The notorious female psychology makes girls believe not logical arguments, but emotions and sensations. She will not understand the globality of your plans, she needs sensory evidence: to see, to feel the difference. Only then will she be able to believe you.
Do not drown your pain and your blues with alcohol. Alcohol only heightens real emotions. If you are sad, then a few glasses of a strong alcoholic drink will only increase the intensity of this mood. In addition, you do not want to sink even more in the eyes of your former chosen one?

If you are determined to return your girlfriend, try to find out the exact reason for the breakup.

Identifying the source of the problem is half the battle. It is best, of course, to find out the motive of the act first-hand, but if the ex-lover does not make contact, you will have to figure it out on your own or make an appointment with a psychologist.

What are the reasons for the breakup?

Lack of trust. Relationship psychology claims that couples in which there is no trusting relationship will sooner or later break up. Incessant jealousy, constant monitoring of every step of the girl, monitoring of her correspondence on the network or via SMS will certainly lead to a break in relations.
Lie. It is difficult to find girls who could easily forgive deception and betrayal. If your ex-lover found out about your affair, you shouldn't be surprised that she decided to end your relationship.
The love is over. "She fell out of love" is an extremely painful reason for a man's pride for parting. It is even more painful if the former chosen one went to another.
Self-love of a partner. Any patience is not unlimited, so in a certain moment even the quietest and most modest girl can rebel because of male inattention.
Obsession with old relationships. If a man maintains close contact with the previous girl, the current darling may take this extremely negatively. Comparison with former lovers is especially annoying for women.

Of course it is not full list possible reasons breaking up relations. You can also recall the mismatch of characters, unwillingness to give in to each other, to compromise. It is important to sort out the heap of problems and find the main motive for a woman's act.

4 easy steps that will work

So, it's been a while now and you realize that attempts to reanimate the relationship have failed. Increasingly, the question of how to get your beloved girl back bothers you day and night. She says that she has fallen out of love, or does not answer at all phone calls and sms.

You can, of course, continue to guard her near work or university, fill up with flowers, beg for a meeting and beg for a second chance. However, with a high probability, your ventures will fail, since the girl's psychology does not allow respect for the guy lying around her beautiful legs. Gather your will in a fist and listen to the advice of experts.

Step # 1. Agreeing with her decision

If, after a quarrel or long-term stressful relationship, a girl informs you of a breakup, try at least outwardly to perceive her words calmly and even with a touch of relief. You can answer the following: “I am glad that we have a common opinion. I've been thinking about parting for a long time. "

Why is the effect guaranteed? Women often use these phrases in the heat of the moment or in order to bring about a change in the guy's behavior. But even if your girlfriend was planning such a conversation, the unexpected turn will confuse her and neutralize her moral edge.

By agreeing, there is no need to get into an argument, otherwise you can ruin everything. Leave the girl in confusion for a while. At this time, do not call and do not arrange "casual" meetings, quarrels. The ball is now on your side, so you need to prepare for the following steps.

Step # 2. Contact

While waiting for her call or message on the network, a "random" meeting, you should not get discouraged and track her VK page. We can confidently say that the former lover is in the dark, not understanding why you do not learn about her affairs, do not try to return her.

And here there are two possible scenarios for the development of events:

The girl will call first, having found any weighty reason - she forgot a thing at your house or asks for advice on any issue. Be sure to pick up the phone, ask what prompted her to call, ask about business, but without unnecessary emotions.
If your ex doesn't call, try arranging a meeting in a place where she often visits. Naturally, without flowers and balls, since you met her "quite by accident".

In any of the contact options, respond positively, without rudeness, but in monosyllables, as if you had time to acquire secrets. The girl should feel that you do not finish everything. End the conversation first by referring to being busy. After a conversation or a meeting, do not call or write, disappearing again for a while.

Step # 3. Changes

So, you are hiding, thereby stirring up the curiosity of the ex-lover, but you cannot sit back. Self-development and self-improvement are necessary, and you also will not have time for sadness. During this period, you can do the following:

if possible, pump up, bring yourself into optimal physical shape, removing the beer belly;
update your wardrobe, replacing the usual urban style with something brighter;
go on a trip, do any extreme sport (without fanaticism), which will certainly affect your self-esteem and look;
take some photos with pretty strangers (not your cousin) and post them on your page.

Be sure that the ex-darling regularly visits you on social networks to mark changes in status or to find new girls in “friends”. The change of image will surely hook her.

In addition, by changing your lifestyle, you will attract new and interesting people to you. Perhaps among them there will be a young lady who will be in all respects better than her former lover. Then you will no longer puzzle over the question of how to get the girl back after breaking up and rekindle feelings.

Step number 4. Personal meeting

If the girl does not call or write after the first contact, organize communication on your own. A chance meeting will show all the positive changes that have happened to you during the time of separation. Women are quite jealous of such changes, starting to think about possible rivals. Yes, girls are jealous even of their ex-boyfriends!

It is extremely important to communicate live, limiting contacts on the Internet to a minimum.

Content

Everyone has the right to make a mistake, but very often the understanding that we were wrong comes at a time when it is too late to correct anything. Often this happens in a relationship, when we begin to appreciate a partner only after he leaves. Men often have the question of how to return their beloved girl when she is no longer there, and an abyss lies between two loving hearts. Let's see how to do this in different ways.

To regain a relationship, you must first of all change yourself, but not force your beloved girl to return. Psychologists are experts in the movements of human souls, therefore, in order to quickly achieve the cherished goal, you should heed their advice. First of all, experts recommend:

Consider strongly whether you need a relationship with your ex. After all, the gap happened for some reason, and some actions are not forgiven and are not forgotten. If the breakup was solid, then your shared future will be precarious.

It is necessary to carefully analyze the situation, to identify at what stage of communication with the beloved girl mistakes were made, and the most important thing is to forgive the chosen one if she was to blame for something. Introspection will help you avoid similar mistakes in the future.

After making a positive decision, you need to immediately begin to act without wasting time. Agree to meet with your ex, talk to her without blaming anyone for the breakup. When you meet, say that you are ready to learn from mistakes, perhaps she will reconsider her attitude towards you. Admitting your mistakes will allow your girlfriend to understand that you value the relationship with her and are ready to take responsibility for them into your own hands.

If the girl is not ready to meet, then keep your distance, wait until she herself wants to contact or return to you.

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I reread a lot of sites, articles, but I could not find the answers I needed anywhere. This is the first site where I was able to draw at least some conclusions for myself, therefore I am writing this comment. Prior to that, he did not write anywhere and did not talk about his situation. Probably, like everyone else sitting here, I consider my story special. I don’t know what to do, even March 8 is on the nose. I really hope for an ambulance. I am weak and afraid of losing HER forever. I have already made a lot of mistakes, excessive attention, excessive persistence, talking about feelings, adjusting to the interests of my object and even trying to appeal to female logic.

The situation is pretty complicated. It seems unrealistic to me to return a girl who never had feelings for me, or they did appear and I buried them myself.

I am 21, she is 24. I have had sympathy for this girl for a very long time, as much as 7 years. Due to the age difference, at my 14, I could not even dream that one day I would just get to know her. As far back as I can remember, she has always been quite popular. And now 7 years later - we are together. Were.

Our history dates back to 1.5 years ago. At that time, I already knew her, but not as close as I would like. So clean, one meeting in the company, then a couple of times HELLO-HELLO. And all this time she was unaware of my sympathy. I was still afraid to send her a friend request, tk. it seemed to me that if she did not accept him, that was all. I lived with the hope that somehow something would happen, that we would get closer. I waited, waited, and now I could not stand it and sent a request. She accepted him, and even she herself offered to meet at a local get-together, where she was going to go with her friend. I went there with a friend. Since that day we have become inseparable. We exchanged numbers, communication online 24/7. My sympathy began to grow into something more, but I still hid it. Although he tried to show it with some actions that she did not notice. And so I admitted that I want to be with her. Received a refusal.

I have never considered myself to be a guy who runs after someone, humiliates himself or achieves. I will not say that I am not popular with other girls, on the contrary. I always got what I wanted. I have not yet heard a single refusal in my direction. Since the 14 years since which I have sympathy for her, I managed to be in a serious relationship twice (3.5 years and 1.2). I loved. There were also many fleeting romances. I will not say what I thought of her. On the contrary, I did not think at all, I had a different life, but sympathy for her lived all this time. It just seemed so unattainable. And now life gives me the opportunity, we spend a lot of time together, everything is fine, we laugh, we walk. And she refuses me. She. The same one. The first one who refused me. It was a blow. For pride, for feelings, for everything.

As a result, we stopped communicating. I couldn’t stand it for a week. I bought a huge bouquet of meter-long red roses with my last money and came to pour out my soul. She said that you need to think. In the end, we met 2 days later at her place. The atmosphere was intimate. Everything hinted that it was YES. And she said to my friend alone that she agreed to try. We drank then, I stayed overnight for the first time. She lives on her own. They kissed all night, but I did not dare to go further. Not because I didn't want to, it just seemed to me wrong to take advantage of her, her drunken state. I thought that we would have time to have sex together. The next day she suddenly changed her mind, said that there was nothing between us. It seemed strange to me. What happened then that night? Are you drunk? Is this how she behaves with every “friend”? It seems to me that even if you value a person as a friend, then they do not act like that. It seemed to me that they played with me. It was spitting. I was looking for a reason, what's wrong? Maybe because he did not cross this very line and did not show her seriousness. After all, the girl is not 16. Experience is present. Sounds weird. I still don't know what it was and why it was. After her words that there was nothing between us, I said that this is where our communication ends and I will never disturb her again. And I kept my word. We did not communicate for a long 11 months. I don't know what happened in her life during this time. With whom, what, how and when. I was just bored, but I kept my word.

And now, after 11 months, she announced herself. It's just that at one of the parties I took a picture with a girl who many thought was HER. Although they have only hair color in common (the photo was in profile). I uploaded a photo to Instagram, and in my and in her direction, questions rained down whether she was in the photo and did we really renew communication.

In the end, she wrote to me, asking me to mark the girl in the photo, because she was embarrassed by these questions. From this, a conversation began, without straining, they laughed, I asked how she was doing and she offered to meet for a chat. Then I didn't count on anything, but I didn't freeze either. I didn't hold a grudge, I'm not touchy at all. I’m rather just drawing conclusions. I draw conclusions and continue to idealize her.

We met. We talked. It started. Again, non-stop communication. Jokes, jokes. Second meeting, third. And now she herself brings me to the question of what I need from her. To which I replied “You. And you know it". She asked for time to think. And this time we became a couple. Everything was great. We spent a lot of time together. I tried to do everything in my power for her. I never have much money, although not from a poor family. My parents do not pamper me, and studying from morning to evening and training do not allow me to get a job. When it never comes out somewhere to "muddy" something. But I tried not to deny her anything. I would rather deny myself. I could save on food, I lost a lot of weight. But I never made it clear that I couldn't do something for her. I tried to surprise. The debts were increasing. There was no return. Even sometimes they did without an elementary “thank you”. Perhaps my mistake is that I never said that I really had no money and she thought that I was a major who spends well and spends. Although I sacrificed a lot and wanted to receive something in return. It came to sex, but there was no initiative from her. It seems that we are meeting, everything seems to be fine, but she just did not want me, which caused a variety of thoughts to enter her head. If not with me, then with whom? Maybe there is someone, maybe something is wrong with me. It's the same with kisses. I climbed, she answered, but not though. Then there were reproaches that I climb too much, I am an egoist. But I just wanted to know that she cares. I was waiting for an answer.

Before February 14, on this basis, (supposedly I don't listen to her, I don't care what she says, I do what I want) we almost parted, did not communicate for 2 days. On the holiday, I came to her with flowers and a gift without a call. Made up. That evening I did not climb to her, I tried to restrain myself. But already at the next meeting, I lost my head, climbed and was refused. After that there was one more, already the last meeting. I had to leave on business in another city, came to her in the morning instead of couples to see, again could not stand it and climbed. Having received a refusal, I decided to be persistent. My eyes burned like a bull being shown a red rag. Everything happened. But not entirely by mutual agreement. I was not given, rather I took it. I took it and then left. On this day, everything was still normal with us. While I was in another city, our communication began to deteriorate, having arrived, she did not find time to meet, arguing that there were a lot of things to do and problems. And then she even wrote that she wanted to leave, because instead of conquering my soul and inner world, I was engaged in satisfying my physical needs. But this is far from the case. According to her, I went too far and she felt nothing but my lust. This is far from the case, I lived her, I was ready to give her the whole world. Maybe I went too far, but I, like any other man, obviously wanted sex. I wanted it with her. As I already wrote, I am not deprived of female attention. To go and insert somewhere is not a problem. The problem is, I don't want that. I need her.

She said that she definitely didn’t care about me, but I’m not the one with whom she would like to have a relationship. In general, we held out for a little more than a month. During this time, there were many positive moments. Is it really the reason that I went too far like that? This is some kind of nonsense. I do not think that everyone in front of whom she spread her legs opened her inner world. And her last relationship was 2 years ago. I will not believe that during this time she had no one with anyone, I will never believe. What's wrong with me? Why is this a problem? Is it really my fault? She made me feel guilty. Or the reason was different, but she found an excuse to leave

This is the 6th day, as we are not together. No calls, no messages. Feels like I'm being used, but I don't want our story to end. Every minute it seems to me that I am losing her more and more. Trying to follow the rules and just move on, hoping she’ll come to her senses. But the probability is very small. She has a very complex character. Highly. Even if she is aware of something, she is not one of those who will take the first step. Rather 2 back. And what to realize if it meant nothing to her.

The day after tomorrow, March 8. I do not know how to be. Arrive with flowers, send by courier to remind you of yourself, or do nothing at all and just write “Happy Holidays”. I don’t want to be weak in her eyes, I don’t want to humiliate myself, but I want to return everything. It seems to me that she expects that I will not stand aside on this holiday and will make myself known. I taught it so. Perhaps doing nothing to play with contrast? How will it be for her to know that I am not? Or do the wrong thing and try to talk. The point is that she still has some of my things at her house, which I will need to go and pick up. We did not live together, but there are things. How to be? Help with advice.