40 howl the day after death. Do's and don'ts for relatives after the funeral. What do they do on this day

Letter.“Dear Lyudmila Masterina! Women from Severodonetsk write to you. You performed a ritual with us « Seeing off the human soul to another world ”. We discussed the whole wire course for a long time, and decided to ask you for its content. We really liked how exactly, how true, how correctly the words and prayers were chosen, and how touching and lovingly it was performed. We think that this is a true and correct example of how to escort the soul of the deceased into another world. Everything is clear, everything is correct and everything is clear. We especially liked the voice in which you read prayers and appeals to the soul. And if all people saw off the souls of their loved ones in this way, then there would be no attachments from the deceased to relatives, and the soul would be calmer. We all want to have the content of this ritual. "Seeing off the soul to another world for 40 days". We ask you, Lyudmila Masterina, to publish it on the site, and we will rewrite it. We think that it is necessary not only for us, but it will be of interest to other people as well. We ask you very much and thank you for those moments of joy that we spent together.
Respectfully yours: Zinaida and seven other people. Severodonetsk. Ukraine.

Seeing the human soul to another world for 40 days. This ritual of Seeing Off the Soul is performed on day 40, before lunch. It is necessary that there was a lamp that burned for 40 days, and all those present were holding a lighted candle in their hands. Everyone is obliged to read prayers, in a half-whisper, clearly, clearly, thoughtfully, consciously, personally everyone should pray for the soul, which today (on the 40th day) flies to God. Everyone who prays and reads prayers from himself personally sends the warmth of his soul to the soul of a deceased person, which is present here, but no one sees it. If a person does not read prayers, but simply holds a candle, then he does not help the departing soul in any way. And it's bitter to see when the room is packed, there is no other word for it, there are a lot of people, relatives and strangers, and only the priest reads prayers, and this is at best, the rest are holding a candle, nothing more. Tell me why they filled the room, that it is very difficult for a departing soul to approach a loved one. The soul perceives only the one who turns to it, so you need to know what CANNOT be done while reading prayers on the 40th day.
1. While reading prayers, you cannot think about something bad or bad about the deceased himself, this can attract dark forces that are not averse to feasting on the energy that will come from prayers. But even after the soul leaves, it is also NOT possible to speak or think badly about the deceased. Your dirty thoughts and words convey to your deceased loved ones dark forces, which, with pleasure, will do this, since they need the energy of life, and they will take it from the soul of your deceased loved one, and this is the strongest pain that you do not feel, but the soul feels. And know that if you send Light, Warmth, Good, Peace and Love to your friends and relatives, then the warmth of your soul not only clears the space, but also helps purposefully, also to the soul of the deceased, your prayers, your warmth, your love, your bright the memory of the departed soul will be purposefully transmitted by the Lord only to her, and this will give her strength and the earliest awareness of her mistakes and sins. Think of the departed with warmth and love, no matter what they were in life. They really need your prayers and your bright memory of them.
2. It is impossible that in the crowd of those who prayed there were people drunk, or very sick, since with their state they not only hurt the departing soul, but also attract dark forces.
3. You cannot speak in a raised voice, otherwise you will frighten the soul, and it will have to wait in the wings outside the house. Only calmness, peace and a wish for love to the departing soul.
4. You can not turn on any music and light candles with different smells, but incense is allowed. The soul needs Fresh air, cleanliness, tranquility and peace.
5. You cannot read prayers quickly, loudly, without pronouncing the words, otherwise the outgoing soul will not understand the words of the prayer, but a loud voice, and if it is still unexpected, it may get scared, fly out of the house and wait in the wings in a secluded place.
6. You cannot invite outsiders to read prayers on the 40th day, as is customary in Russia. This cannot be done. You do not know what past these women have, and what thoughts and deeds they performed earlier, and why they decided to go and read prayers for dead people. The Lord is against such an action, and in order for it to be true, learn to do everything right yourself. After all, the soul of a person close to you leaves, and you read prayers to him with love, and with what love do strangers read them?
7. It is necessary that on the fortieth day only relatives who knew him well should pray for the soul of a deceased person. Strangers who came to eat, and not help the soul of the deceased, and who will repeat prayers with indifference (if they still repeat) are not desirable. Another soul leaves the world loved one, and she wants to hug her family for the last time, and the presence of strangers can prevent her from doing it. Therefore, it is advisable that in the last reading of the prayers there were only those who were closest, and those who came to see or simply accompany the deceased to last way, will wait on the street, for example. It is the closest ones who remain with the soul of the deceased and say goodbye to it through prayers and through a heartfelt feeling.

The ritual can be led by a priest, unfortunately, modern priests are unlikely to agree to conduct such wires of the soul, but not necessarily he... It can be led by someone from relatives or someone close, who has a clear and correct speech. The presenter reads slowly and clearly, and everything is also repeated slowly, clearly, consciously and in a half-whisper in the first person. Over time, True Clairvoyants will be invited to such rituals so that they can convey last words of the outgoing soul to everyone to whom it turns. I said, True clairvoyants, not those who are associated with the astral plane of the Earth. True clairvoyants and clairaudient ones are directly merged with God, Who helps the clairvoyant in their work, and such a person speaks the truth, which cannot be said about those who read the astral plane. So, the lamp is on, candles are lit, there is a photo of the deceased on the table, relatives and closest ones are in the room. Calm, as much as possible, and silence.
1.Head:

“In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit. Amen! In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and Divine Mother. Amen! God the Father, God the Sun, God the Holy Spirit. Amen!" All are baptized.
2. Turning to God.

“Our Lord, Master Jesus Christ, I turn to You, to Your Great Heart. Our Merciful Lord, today another son of yours (name), (your daughter, name) makes the transition to the world. He has a long way to the Parental House in the World of Light, Love and Good. I ask You, Lord, Sovereign Jesus Christ, to convey to his soul the love and warmth of my soul, my heart, which I send through prayers. Let the light of my prayers flow into your Divine Light and give (name) strength and confidence on the path to God Almighty. God the Father, God the Sun, God the Holy Spirit. Amen! In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and Divine Mother. Amen.
3. PRAYERS.
a) "O Supreme Lord and Your particle is in me!" 3 times.("Agni Yoga" by Helena Roerich)
b) Symbol of Faith. Jesus Christ. (Prayer book "Sun Ray" or the site www.masterina.at.ua, on the page "Prayers")
c) Prayer of earthlings to the Lord. Jesus Christ. (Prayer Book "Sunbeam")
d) Our Father. (Prayer Book "Sunbeam")
e) Theotokos. (Prayer Book "Sunbeam")
f) Rosary of Mother Mary, given for the development of a new humanity... (Prayer Book "Sunbeam")
g) Prayer for the dead.(Prayer Book "Sunbeam") We read it twice, inserting only the name of the deceased, the third time we read it for all souls in the other World. Yes, for all the dead, since the soul goes into another world and is expected and it is necessary for the Light and Help of God to come with it) ...

Prayer for all the dead... Jesus Christ.
In the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ,
In the Name of All Ascended Masters,
In the Name of All Saints not ascended,
I ask you to direct my prayers to where those who have passed to the other side of life are now. I ask you to send the Light of my prayers to those souls who have been forgotten and do not remember, as well as to all my departed relatives and friends.
I ask the Lord to direct to them the warmth of my soul, my respect for them, my love for their souls, like the Spark of God.
I ask the Lord to forgive them all the sins they have committed knowingly and unknowingly.
I ask the Lord to direct to them the Light of Heaven as much as they need to realize their mistakes and sins.
Merciful Lord! I ask You to forgive them and have mercy! Forgive and have mercy! Forgive and have mercy!
Send your Love to their souls so that they can become stronger and stronger, so that awareness goes faster. God! Forgive them and have mercy!
God! Forgive them and have mercy! God! Forgive them and have mercy!
May all souls always be surrounded by the Light of Heavenly Love and the Blessing of the Lord.
Kingdom of Heaven to you all! Kingdom of Heaven to you all! Kingdom of Heaven to you all! In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and Divine Mother. Amen.

4. An appeal to the soul of the deceased.The leader (priest) reads aloud,

everyone slowly repeats aloud.
(Name), I know that you can hear me now, which means that I have the opportunity to ask your forgiveness. (everyone repeats)
(Name), forgive me for all my mistakes, all insults towards you. Forgive me for everything if ever knowingly or not knowingly did you badly. I'm sorry, I'm sorry! (repeated and were silent for a few seconds).
(Name) and I forgive you for anything you ever hurt, insulted, deceived me, or hurt me. I forgive you for everything, for everything sincerely and forever. (All repeated)
"I forgive everyone who offended me, I apologize to those whom I offended"(Everyone reads it consciously, three times).
(Name), I forgive you and let you go(this word is clearer and slower) you from yourself, sending you the warmth of your soul, your heart. (G all speak clearly, consciously).
And may my forgiveness and my love free you from all earthly bonds and make you free... (They repeat everything, clearly, consciously)
You will forever remain in my memory, only we will live in different Worlds.(Everything is clear, conscious)
Your soul will fly to God, to the Parental House, and I will stay on Earth.(Everything is clear, conscious).
And let the thread that connects me and you break forever, but the bright memory and love for each other will forever remain.(Everything is clear, conscious).
I RELEASE YOU FROM MYSELF WITH PEACE AND LOVE!(3 times, clearly, consciously and confidently).
In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and Divine Mother. Amen! (3 times)
May the Heavenly Angels help you to ascend to the House of the Most High Father! (Repeated 1 time )
May the Love of God the Great meet you!(Repeated 1 time)
And may the Power of the Fiery Cross and the Love of the Heavenly Father be with you forever. 9Repeated 1 time)
Live and know that on Earth you are loved and remembered!(Repeated clearly and confidently)
In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and Divine Mother. Amen! 3 times, cross ourselves)
5. A minute of silence.

6. Thanksgiving prayer... Leading.
From the bottom of my heart I bring my gratitude and Love to our Heavenly Father, Lord Jesus Christ, to all Masters, Archangels, Angels, Saints of Heavenly Light who help me and all people of the planet Earth. Low bow to YOU, Beloved, for your love for us, people and the whole planet. Let the Light of Your Love illuminate our consciousness and direct us to Light, Peace, Good, Mutual understanding and Love. In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and Divine Mother. Amen. In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and Divine Mother. Amen. God the Father, God the Sun, God the Holy Spirit. Amen.( Read this prayer warmly, heartily, thoughtfully once).

All repeat. May the Dawn of Love rise over the entire planet Earth and over every living being! With God! With God! With God ! 3 times.

7. Host . And now I will say a prayer. It is read before burying the body in the ground, and we will all leave the body for exactly one hour.

Prayer before burying the body in the ground

In the Name of the Lord the Most High Father, in the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we ask the Angels of Healing to take the Divine energy from every cell, every joint, every vessel and the entire skeletal system of the physical body in which the soul (name) lived, and direct all the liberated energy to the soul ( name), which for many years gave life to this body.

Merciful Lord! We ask for forgiveness if the physical body and mind of the deceased (his) (name) made mistakes and sins. Forgive her (him), Lord! Forgive her (him), Lord! Forgive her (him), Lord!

We know that your soul (name) is now here and you yourself see and hear everything. You (name) have time to say goodbye to your physical body. It will no longer be useful to you, but you are alive, and we will always remember you with love and kindness. Kingdom of Heaven to you! Kingdom of Heaven to you! Kingdom of Heaven to you! Happy journey to the Almighty Father!

In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and Divine Mother. Amen. In the Name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit and Divine Mother. Amen. God the Father, God the Sun, God the Holy Spirit. Amen.

They stand in silence for a minute, then leave the body alone for an hour. It is impossible that at this time there was noise, screams. Angels will work in silence and a soul will be with them, and noise, knocking, loud voices can interfere with them. While reading the prayers, I saw and then told the relatives how the soul flew up to everyone and said goodbye, and when everyone was sitting at the table, I conveyed the farewell words of the soul to the leaving relatives. You need to know that the soul will be next to relatives and at the table, if the room is quiet and everyone talks in a half-whisper. After parting words, the soul bowed to everyone, said: “It's time for me to leave. Farewell!" She bowed to everyone and disappeared. The clock showed 13 o'clock. By 15 o'clock everyone went to the cemetery, since it is at 15 o'clock every day that the "gates" to the other world open, and they are open until 17 o'clock. I ask everyone, do not take anything with you to the cemetery. All that is needed, you have already done, now you need to help the soul ascend the Great Ladder, which leads to the Heavenly Father. And we waited for the opening of the gate, and with God and prayer helped the soul to rise to the Lord. And I saw how the Angels gave their soul to God, how the most tender Light of Love surrounded her, and allowed her to wave her hand to us, standing on Earth. Happy journey to the World of Light, Kindness and Love. That's all. Now, indeed, everyone will live in their own World, and God bless everyone living on our Earth, and everyone living in another World. With God!

My friends from Severodonetsk, I fulfilled your request, and I hope that the ritual "Seeing the Human Soul to Another World for 40 Days" will be accepted by people correctly... We told you how Baptisms will take place in the future all over the Earth, and now you will know how to properly see off the souls of the deceased people close to you. And this ritual " Seeing off the soul to another world on day 40 " will become common to all souls living on Earth. The time will come when all our prayers will be translated into all languages of the world, and this ritual will become common for everyone. And this is the Truth! And in conclusion, I want to say that as soon as you start reading prayers, the Lord Himself will read with you. And this is 100% true. I saw it all with my own eyes.

And returning to the letter, I would like to address the residents of Severodonetsk and the residents of nearby villages. Severodonetsk - beautiful city, I think the inhabitants in it are wonderful, but with what sadness I looked at your cemeteries, which have no borders, have no fencing, which means that its border is open for many kilometers. But you know, you can't make a cemetery in a forest, especially a coniferous one. And if the Lord allows the soul to fly on Memorial Day to meet with relatives, then it, among the trees, will not be able to find its grave, and most importantly, it can hurt itself on the sharp needles of a pine tree, and of course, it is unlikely that it will want to meet with relatives again on certain days ... And you will come to an empty grave, as some already do. The cemetery should be open on all sides, but always fenced off on all sides. The inhabitants of the cemetery should only know their territory, they do not go beyond its borders. What do you have? And you have beautiful forests, wonderful pines, but someone, not deliberately, made a grave at the edge of the forest, and off they went. Now they bury anyone in the forest, wherever they want. It's scary! This is not true! It is dangerous for living people! Why doesn't anyone think about it? Imagine huge coniferous forest, with its mushrooms and berries, was turned into a continuous cemetery. In this forest, nothing can be torn, you cannot walk, rest, since the entire forest belongs to the inhabitants of the cemetery. I saw a huge number of them throughout the forest. I saw a road in the depths of the forest, on which accidents had already occurred, and, as the drivers later said, it happens like a blackout for seconds. And so it is. And this is all the tricks of the inhabitants of the cemetery, they are offended that without their permission you enter their territory. Is there really a need to take a huge forest from people and give it to astral spirits? I think this is simply human irresponsibility, and “my house is on the edge, I don’t know anything,” or maybe the local authorities really don’t know anything? Maybe so, then I sincerely feel sorry for them, what a pity everyone who is surrounded by such cemeteries.
Learn, people, to do everything right, sincerely, consciously and with love. We gave you information that is already working on Earth, but to accept or not to accept, depends only on you.
Bless everyone who reads these lines, Lord, for correct awareness.
Peace to you people! Peace to your home! Peace to our earth!

Lyudmila Masterina. FULL AND ADDITIONAL TEXT in the BOOK "LIFE LESSONS" VOLUME №3

Tags: seeing off the soul, Light, Love.

Death is grief and pain for the loved ones of the deceased. Natural consolation is the desire to help, to facilitate the deceased's transition to other facets of life. According to the Christian religion, the 40th day is considered the most important of all memorial days, because during this period the soul forever says goodbye to the earth and leaves it. Many organize for commemoration. What to say on this day and how to behave?

What is the meaning of the memorial rite

It is important to know that the essence of the memorial ceremony is to make the transition of the soul of a deceased person to another world painless, to help the soul appear before God, to feel peace and tranquility. And this is achieved through prayers. Everything that will be said about a deceased person on this day: kind words, prayers, good memories and speeches, will help the soul to endure God's judgment. Therefore, it is so important to observe all the traditions associated with this day, and to know

The main thing on this day is to pray. You can do this yourself, or you can invite a priest.

Christian traditions on the 40th day

The rite of remembrance has been known from the very beginning of the birth of Christianity. The purpose of the ceremony is to give peace and tranquility to the soul of the one who has gone to another world, to help to cognize the eternal heavenly Kingdom.

For this, the friends of the deceased must also gather at the memorial table. When are post-death commemorations organized, what to say to those present? It is believed that what more people remembers the deceased in his prayers, the better the soul of the one for whom they are praying will be. On this day, it is customary to remember moments from the life of the deceased, focusing on his virtues and good deeds.

Life does not stand still, if before the commemoration was held in the house of the deceased, now it can be done in a restaurant or cafe. The traditions of Orthodoxy oblige on this day to accept more people than on day 9, because the soul leaves the earth, and not only relatives, but also everyone who wants to do this should say goodbye to a person.

40 days after death, commemoration: what to say in the cemetery?

A visit to the grave of a deceased person is an obligatory part of the funeral ritual. You need to take flowers and a candle with you. It is customary to carry a pair of flowers at the cemetery, even numbers are a symbol of life and death. Laying flowers is the most The best way show respect to the deceased.

Having arrived, you should light a candle and pray for the tranquility of the soul, then you can just stand there, be silent, remembering the good moments from the life of the deceased person.

Noisy conversations and discussions are not arranged at the cemetery; everything should take place in an atmosphere of calm and tranquility.

Commemoration for the fortieth in the church

Church commemoration is the mention of the name of the deceased during the prayer at the Liturgy for the salvation of the soul and the eternal good of the one who is remembered. The ceremony is held after the relatives of the deceased submit a note "On the repose." It is important to know that in this note only the names of those who have been baptized in the Orthodox Church are given.

For the relatives of the deceased the most the best view the donation will be a candle for the deceased. At the time of installing the candle, you need to pray for the peace of the soul, asking the Lord to forgive the free and involuntary sins of the deceased person.

According to the canons of Orthodoxy, commemoration (40 days after death) earlier the deadline do not conduct. If, nevertheless, by coincidence, it is necessary to conduct the ceremony at an earlier date, then on the next weekend after the fortieth day it is necessary to give alms. On the same day, hold a church commemoration.

Organization of the memorial table

The purpose of the memorial dinner is to remember the deceased person, to pray for the peace of his soul, to provide psychological support to those in need, to thank people for their participation and help. You cannot arrange a dinner in order to amaze the guests with expensive and delicious dishes, to boast of an abundance of dishes or to feed them to the bone.

The main thing is not food, but unification in grief and support of those who find it difficult. It is important to take into account the main rules of Christianity: restriction in the intake of alcoholic beverages, fasting and the presence of the simplest dishes on the table.

Do not take the funeral service as a feast. Large expenditures in this case are unjustified, it will be much more useful to direct financial investments into the field of charity.

If more than 40 days have passed after death, the commemoration can be arranged later, if only the memorial table is moved. It is necessary to pray for the soul of the deceased on the 40th day.

The main dishes of the memorial table

When setting the table, it is advisable to give preference to lean dishes. At the head of the table should be porridge cooked from whole grains, with the addition of honey, nuts and raisins. The dish personifies the rebirth of the soul, symbolizes the benefits of eternal life.

The composition of the dishes mainly depends on the funeral party. Traditionally cooked: pancakes, pies, porridge, cabbage soup and jelly. Various appetizers are acceptable: salads, vegetable or Among the first courses: borsch, noodles in chicken broth, beetroot. Garnish - buckwheat porridge, pilaf or mashed potatoes. The Church is against alcoholic beverages, in any case, their use should be limited.

If the commemoration coincided with fasting, then the meat should be exchanged for fish. From salads, vinaigrette is perfect. Let mushrooms, vegetables and fruits be on the table. The main thing at the commemoration is to strengthen the strength in order to continue to tirelessly pray for the deceased.

How to prepare a memorial speech

Not a single commemoration is complete without a memorial speech. Sometimes, especially for this occasion, a presenter is invited to help arrange the order of speeches. If the presenter is absent, a close relative should take over his role.

When a commemoration is arranged for 40 days after death, the words spoken at the table should be distributed according to a certain order of speakers. First, the speech is made by the closest relatives, then friends and, last of all, acquaintances.

Don't rely too much on improvisation. This is a sad event, and people who are in grief will listen to you. Brevity and accuracy are the main criteria for a memorial speech. Try to find time to work out at home so you can figure out where to keep quiet and what to add.

Usually all the closest ones come to the commemoration (40 days after death). The speech delivered at the table should not consist of the biography of the deceased person, because there will be people who already know everything well life stages dead man. It is very good to tell about some fact from life that will serve as proof of the deceased's virtues.

When a commemoration is being prepared for 40 days after death, poems dedicated to the mourning event can be more useful than ever. They will help you tune in to a lyrical and tragic mood, contributing to the creation of an atmosphere of commemoration.

Your speech can be supplemented with a photograph of the deceased or a thing that belonged to him, which will prove to those present how a good man there was a deceased. Avoid mentioning the deceased's mistakes, gossip and secrets. There is no place for such speeches at the memorial table.

Sample speech

Many people think when they organize a commemoration for 40 days after death: “What to say?” ... There is no established version of such a speech. The most important thing is to speak the words from the heart. But still, there are certain rules, using which you can prepare and speak correctly during the memorial ceremony.

You should start by greeting those present, followed by a story about who you are to the deceased. Say a few words about mourning and move on to telling about the good sides of the person being remembered. If possible, remember the good times you shared. It will be very appropriate to involve other people in the memories so that your story will be complemented by good memories. The speech ends with a promise to forever remember the one who is remembered.

Still, you can remember a deceased person whenever you want. The main thing is to observe the basic rules of the memorial rite: prayer, alms and good memories of the deceased.

The death of a loved one is a great grief for a family. Relatives grieve and grieve. They want to know where the soul goes after 40 days, how to behave and what to say. There are many unresolved questions to which one would like to find answers. The article will tell you in detail about this and highlight important points.

During life, the body and soul of a person are inseparable. Death is a stop for the body as well. Up to 40 days there are "walks" in heaven and hell. The "excursion" to paradise is much shorter. It is believed that more bad deeds are committed than good deeds during the passed life.

Ordeals begin in hell. There are twenty of them. This is a difficult and crucial stage. A kind of exam that tests all passions. How strong they are in terms of the degree of evil. For example, take a passion for theft. One takes insignificant money from the pocket of a friend or acquaintance, the other forges documents, the third takes large bribes.

Laziness, envy, pride, anger, lies and other ordeals are a test of how much the devil has taken possession of a person. The devil cannot capture the human soul, but by dominating the soul, he shows its inconsistency before the Kingdom of saints. Therefore, when going through the ordeals, it is revealed whether there was unity with God and with the laws prescribed in the Bible.

During his life on earth, a person can repent and ask for forgiveness for the sins he has committed. The Lord will accept every sinner who prays sincerely. The underworld does not provide such a chance. Here everything is at a glance: what I did, I got it. Therefore, when analyzing the acts, the slightest offense is taken into account.

What does the 40th day after death mean?

On the 40th day, the soul appears before God's judgment. A guardian angel becomes a lawyer for her, who protects a person all his life. He brings out good deeds, and the sentence becomes softer. If the activity was commensurate with pure thoughts, then the punishment is not too severe.

The pangs of hell are avoided by doing the right thing. But in modern world hard to resist temptations. If you adhere to the basic God's rules, do good deeds and take communion at the slightest deviation from the right path, the tests will pass easier and faster. A person should think about the upcoming ordeals so as not to subject the soul to heavy tests.

After 40 days, the soul is given the right to return to earth, bypass its native places and say goodbye forever to those who are especially dear. Usually the relatives of the deceased no longer feel his presence. Going to heaven, the soul makes a decision, which was made by the judgment for the acts committed during life: a dark abyss or eternal light.

For the departed, the prayer of relatives is the best display of boundless love. In monasteries, where a service is held every day, you can order a magpie (daily commemoration for 40 days). The word of prayer is like a drop of water in the desert.

Family actions up to 40 days

Do not touch anything in the deceased's room.
Don't share things.
Don't say bad words about him.
Try to do good deeds on behalf of the deceased.
Read prayers these days and fast.

Where does the shower go after 40 days? This is a kind of milestone, after which she goes to heaven or hell. But one must understand that hell is not the end point. Thanks to attention and a desire to intercede, the fate of the soul is sometimes changed for the deceased. During the Last Judgment, a reassessment of all people will take place, and the fate of each will depend on their own actions and activities in society and family. Take the time to change and embark on the righteous path.

40 days after death is an important date. What does it mean and how is it correct, according to Christian traditions, to remember the departed so that they find eternal peace and God's grace. This question is often asked by people who are far from Orthodox traditions, but if the family of the deceased wants to pay the debt of memory and respect to a relative, everything should be done correctly. Therefore, we will tell you how to remember for 40 days after the death of a loved one.

Christians should remember dead friends and loved ones not only on mourning days. True believers pray for the souls of their relatives every minute. But there are dates when it is necessary to accurately follow the instructions of the priest. These are three, nine and forty days from the day of death.

The fortieth day is the most important for the soul of the deceased, she receives news of where she will await the Last Judgment.

But until that time, the soul is near, it is on earth: it sees, hears, yearns. That is why one cannot indulge in grief for a long time, cry bitterly and ask the deceased to return. A person already suffers from the inability to change something, and grieving relatives bring even more confusion.

A 40-day memorial service is an important and responsible event.

At this moment, the Orthodox should pray for the deceased, set the table, remember the earthly affairs of the one who has gone to another world, visit the cemetery, light a candle in the church for repose. Order a prayer service in memory of the newly reposed servant of God. These actions make it easier for the soul to move to another world, help the grieving to endure the bitter loss.

How a believer should react to the death of a loved one

Our ancestors believed in an afterlife, the entire earthly journey was preparing for the transition to a new state. Modern Orthodox Christians and Catholic brothers also believe in the posthumous existence of the soul. After death, we no longer influence where the disembodied shell will be determined, but relatives and friends are obliged to sincerely and fervently ask for mercy in order to soften the Lord. Only faith, sacred words and fond memories can alleviate the fate of the newly departed. Therefore, it is never too late to express sorrow and ask the Almighty for mercy. The man died, but close relatives are asking for him.

Go to church, remember with a kind word the one who is dear.

Death is a stage in life. Sooner or later, the hour will come for everyone to die. After earthly existence comes the period of reckoning for the deed. There is no need to be afraid of the end of life; you should be afraid of punishment for unrighteous actions and deeds.

Date meaning in Christianity

It is difficult to bury a loved one. 40 days after death, what does the date mean and how to remember the departed correctly - these questions are asked by people faced with death. How to express sorrow, organize a farewell and memorial service, what to serve on the table. In a difficult moment, relatives are lost, they do not know how to behave properly.

There is no exact answer to the question of why the fortieth day is taken as the key point of the soul's farewell to the earth. But the Orthodox faith says that the power of prayer on this day is capable of deciding the fate of a soul going to heaven. This is the last chance that is given to influence the higher decision. Therefore, it is so important to observe the memorial calendar.

The fortieth day is counted from the moment of death. It doesn't matter if the mournful event happened in the morning or in the evening. In the same way, it is customary to count the ninth day. These dates in the Orthodox tradition are called days of remembrance. It is necessary to observe all rituals and traditions so that the soul of the deceased is easy and calm.

A Christian, a baptized person is commemorated with prayer. It is recited in church and at home. They hold a memorial dinner, distribute alms to those in need. A mournful meal is allowed to be organized outside the house where the deceased lived.

40 is a sacred number. We will find confirmation of this fact in the Bible. So, Moses led the people in the desert for 40 years; after forty days Jesus ascended to heaven.

After death, the soul goes on a journey: for the first 9 days it worships the Creator. Then, the angels lead her through the afterlife, show Heaven and Hell. Finally, God announces the verdict concerning her continued existence. After making a decision, the soul goes to permanent rest. Where the Last Judgment and Resurrection awaits.

During these hours it is important that people pray in the church and at home. For this, services are ordered.

Sorokoust
Funeral psalter
Requiem

How to spend a fortieth day

There are strict requirements for a mournful meal.

No alcohol.
Appropriate clothing.
Prohibition of loud conversations and funny songs.
You cannot take the commemoration as an occasion to meet with friends and talk on abstract topics. Find a different place and time for secular communication.
Those gathered at the table must adhere to the Orthodox faith. Only they can help the soul of the newly departed.

Remember, funerals are not gatherings for old friends. You cannot turn the commemoration into an ordinary feast, this is a sin.

One should pray for the deceased not only on mourning dates. It is necessary to turn to the Lord with requests from the first minutes of death. So it will be easier for the soul to find peace.

The main dishes of the memorial table

The memorial meal is simple. The rules are tightened when she falls into office. But even if there are no restrictions on this day, give up meat food. Cook lean meals: vegetables, fish. You cannot donate meager food to the temple.

For the church table, they bring such products as cereals, bread, vegetable oil. They bring milk and eggs. Sweets are good for making kids happy.

Obligatory meals at the memorial meal.

Kutia
Fish (baked or boiled)
Pancakes
Vegetable salads
Olivier or herring vinaigrette
Lean cabbage rolls

Complete the list of dishes, following the advice of your confessor. He will tell you what to cook for your farewell dinner.

From drinks, preference is given to jelly, kvass, traditional dried fruit compote.

Important! Ignorant people leave vodka on the grave. Orthodox Church categorically forbids following the barbaric custom. Water is poured into a faceted glass, which is placed near the photograph of the deceased house, and not intoxicating drinks. Do not forget about traditions and stop attempts to mix pagan rituals with Orthodox canons.

Memorial words

To remember the deceased properly, a few words should be said about him. At a mournful dinner, making speeches is considered the rule. But it will be better if those gathered at the funeral service honor the memory of a friend and relative with a minute of silence. A sad meeting at the memorial table is a time of remembrance: tell us what a wonderful person the deceased was, what he loved, what virtues he possessed. Tips for the event:

The mourning speech is made while standing.
A person close to the family is chosen as the host. He must be collected and keep the situation under control. Do not give in to emotions, be able to calm down inconsolable relatives.
The ceremony manager thinks over the speech in advance, prepares soothing phrases in case the words are interrupted by sobbing.

The speech at the commemoration is always short, so that everyone has the opportunity to express themselves. It is important to remember that death is not forever. The soul of the deceased passed into a new state. The death of a loved one is a serious test, but try to distract yourself from sad thoughts, support friends and relatives.

Is it possible to remember before forty days

Life is unpredictable: someone goes on a long business trip or is sick, so they cannot come on the appointed day for the commemoration. One of the questions people ask is whether it is possible to move the date and commemorate the deceased by 40 days ahead of schedule.

The church does not set strict time limits, but goes to meet the parishioners. The main thing is that they do not forget about the person: they read a prayer, order a service, remember it in church. If the fortieth fall on a Sunday or Great post, then you can transfer the funeral dinner and exit to the cemetery. This rule also applies to the year from the date of death. It can also be celebrated earlier.

Significant dates of the memorial calendar are three, nine, forty days, the anniversary from the date of death.

Relatives leave things that remind them of a relative.

What prayer to read for 40 days

For the peace of the soul, prayers are read at home. You don't have to learn the words by heart. The main thing is that they come from the heart. The clergy say that God hears us when we sincerely ask for help. They also say a prayer to Saint Uar:

Oh, holy Martyr Uare, the admirable, with zeal for the Lord Christ we kindle, you have confessed the Heavenly King before the tormentor, and you have suffered earnestly for Him, and now the Church venerates you, as glorified by the Lord Christ with the glory of Heaven, And the boldness of the great boldness is given to you, and now stand before Him with the Angels, and rejoice in the Highest, and see clearly the Holy Trinity, and enjoy the light of the Originless Radiance, remember also our relatives languor, who died in wickedness, accept our petition, and as if Cleopatrinus, through your unfaithful prayers, freed you from eternal torment , so remember the trees that were opposed to being buried, who died unbaptized, strive to ask them for deliverance from eternal darkness, but with one mouth and one heart we praise the Most Merciful Creator forever and ever. Amen.

Whatever events occur in life, sad or joyful, people should remember that God is watching over them. Supports in difficult times, encourages, instructs, rejoices when life is getting better. This statement is first of all worth remembering when death comes to the house. In the first minutes and hours, it is important not to lose heart, to help the disembodied essence of the deceased to safely pass the trials on the way to Paradise.

Commemoration of the deceased is not a tribute to tradition or unquestioning observance of Christian customs. A prayer spoken without faith is a meaningless collection of words. It is a painstaking and difficult work that rests on the shoulders of those who remain on earth. Our task is to provide the soul with a comfortable transition to another world, to give an opportunity to rest in Christ, to atone for lifetime sins.

Fear of the unknown is a natural reaction that makes even the most notorious atheist, albeit to a minimum, believe and adhere to certain rules of behavior during the process, before and after the funeral.

In order to help the soul of the deceased easily leave the material world, you need not only to know the recommendations, but also to understand their deep meaning. Not everyone knows how to behave correctly if such a grief happened in the family. Therefore, we have compiled a detailed article describing the rules of what you can and cannot do.

In Orthodoxy, commemoration after death is held 3 times. On the third day after death, on the ninth, fortieth. The essence of the ritual is a memorial meal. Relatives and acquaintances gather at a common table. They remember the deceased, his good deeds, stories from life.

— On the 3rd day after death (on the same day, the funeral is held), everyone who wants to honor the memory of the deceased gathers. The Christian is first taken to the funeral ceremony in the church or chapel of the cemetery. The unbaptized deceased, after parting with the house, are immediately taken to the cemetery. Then everyone returns to the house for the commemoration. The family of the deceased does not sit at this memorial table.

- In the first seven days after the death of a person, do not take any things out of the house.

— On the 9th day after death, relatives go to church, order a memorial service, a second memorial table is laid at home, only close relatives are called to honor the memory of the deceased. The commemoration is reminiscent of a family dinner, with the difference that the photo of the deceased is not far from the refectory table. A glass of water or vodka, a piece of bread is placed next to the photograph of the deceased.

— On the 40th day after the death of a person, a third memorial table is arranged, everyone is invited. On this day, those who could not attend the funeral usually come to the commemoration. In the church I order the Sorokoust - forty liturgies.

- From the day of the funeral until the 40th day, remembering the name of the deceased, we must pronounce a verbal formula-amulet for ourselves and all living. At the same time, the same words are a symbolic wish for the deceased: "He rest in peace", thereby expressing wishes for his soul to be in paradise.

- After the 40th day and over the next three years, we will say a different formula-wish: "The kingdom of heaven to him"... Thus, we wish the deceased an afterlife in paradise. These words should be addressed to any deceased person, regardless of the circumstances of his life and death. They are guided by the biblical commandment "Do not judge, but you will not be judged".

- During the year following the death of a person, none of the family members has the moral right to take part in any festive celebration.

- None of the family members of the deceased (including the second degree of kinship) could marry or marry during the period of mourning.

- If a relative of the 1st-2nd degree of kinship has died in the family and after his death a year has not yet passed, then such a family has no right to paint eggs for Easter in red (they must be white or some other color - blue, black , green) and, accordingly, take part in the celebrations of Easter night.

- After the death of her husband, the wife is forbidden to wash anything for a year on the day of the week on which the trouble happened.

- For a year after death, everything in the house where the deceased lived remains in a state of rest or constancy: you cannot make repairs, rearrange furniture, do not give or sell anything from the deceased's things until the soul of the deceased reaches eternal rest.

- Exactly one year after the death in the family of the deceased, they celebrate a memorial meal ("please") - the 4th, completing the memorial family-patrimonial meal. It must be remembered that the living cannot be congratulated on their birthday in advance, and the final memorial table should be arranged either exactly one year later, or 1-3 days earlier.

On this day, you need to go to the temple and order a memorial service for the deceased, go to the cemetery - to visit the grave.

As soon as the last memorial meal is completed, the family is again included in the traditional scheme of holiday regulations. folk calendar, becomes a full member of the community, has the right to take part in any family celebrations, including playing weddings.

- A monument on a grave can be erected only after a year after the death of a person. And you must remember the golden rule folk culture: "Do not chap the earth pasturing Pakravo da Radounschy." This means if the year of the deceased fell on the end of October, i.e. after the Intercessions (and for the entire subsequent period up to Radunitsa), the monument can be erected only in the spring, after Radunitsa.

- After the installation of the monument, the cross (usually wooden) is placed next to the grave for another year, and then thrown away. It can also be buried under a flower garden or under a gravestone.

- It is possible to marry (get married) after the death of one of the spouses only after a year. If a woman married a second time, then the full owner-owner new husband became only after seven years.

- If the spouses were married, then after the death of the husband, his wife took his ring, and if she no longer married, then both wedding rings were put in her coffin.

- If the husband buried his wife, then her wedding ring remained with him, and after his death, both rings were placed in his coffin, so that, having met in the Kingdom of Heaven, he said: “I brought our rings, with which the Lord God crowned us.

- For three years, the birthday of the deceased and the day of his death have been celebrated. After this period, only the day of death and all annual church holidays of commemoration of the ancestors are celebrated.

Not all of us know how to pray, let alone pray for the dead. Learn a few prayers that may help your soul find peace after an irreparable loss.

Visiting the cemetery throughout the year

During the first year and all subsequent years, you can go to the cemetery only on Saturdays (except for 9, 40 days after death and church holidays of veneration of ancestors, such as Radunitsa or Autumn Grandfathers). These are the days of commemoration of the dead recognized by the church. Try to convince your relatives that you should not constantly come to the grave of the deceased, thereby they harm their health.
Visit the cemetery before 12 noon.
Whichever way you come to the cemetery, return the same way.

Meat Saturday - Saturday in the ninth week before Easter.
Ecumenical Parent's Saturday- Saturday in the second week of Lent.
Universal Parental Saturday - Saturday in the third week of Lent.
Universal Parental Saturday - Saturday in the fourth week of Lent.
Radunitsa - Tuesday in the second week after Easter.
Trinity Saturday - Saturday in the seventh week after Easter.
Dmitrievskaya Saturday - Saturday in the third week after.

How to dress properly for the anniversary of death?

Clothing for the anniversary of death is of no small importance. If a trip to the cemetery is planned before the memorial dinner, the weather conditions should be taken into account. To visit the church, women need to prepare a headdress (headscarf).

At all funeral events, dress strictly. Shorts, deep neckline, bows and ruffles will look indecent. It is better to exclude bright, variegated colors. Business, office suits, closed shoes, formal dresses in muted tones are an appropriate choice for a mourning date.

Is it possible to make repairs after the funeral?

According to signs that are not related to Orthodoxy, repairs in the house where the deceased lived cannot be done within 40 days. No changes can be made to the interior. In addition, all the belongings of the deceased must be thrown away after 40 days. And on the bed on which a person died, his blood relatives should not sleep at all. From an ethical point of view, the renovation will only refresh the condition of the bereaved. It will help get rid of things reminiscent of a person. Although many, in memory of a deceased loved one, strive to keep for themselves some of what belongs to him. According to signs, this is again not worth doing. Therefore, renovation will be a good solution in all cases.

Can I clean up after the funeral?

Until the deceased is in the house, it is forbidden to clean up and take out the trash. It is believed that the rest of the family will die. When the deceased is taken out of the house, the floor must be thoroughly washed. Blood relatives are prohibited from doing this. The Orthodox Church also denies this point and considers it a superstition.